Never been in a situation so convoluted...

Ok so ill try to explain my current situation… I need some help and ill do my best to explane this. just a warning theres lots of bisexuality and homosexuality in this story…

I’m torn between 2 people… about 2 months ago, I broke up with my girlfriend, paris, of 2 years for irrelivant reasons.. It broke her heart and honestly hurt me quite a lot too… At the same time my best friend trevor was going out with one of my other friends matt… trevor was really being a douche and eventually dumped matt… both me and matt we’re traumitized, we started talking a lot and soon got really close.. for lack of a less sappy term, we fell in love. we started flirting and stuff at school, but paris got really jealous, soon it turned into some kind of a flirting battle over me and I hate being in the middle of stuff like that… Fought over like a piece of meat… Eventually, it turned into physical violence… Despite my efforts to stop it… The school found out and made all 3 of us go to consouling… The consouler told me to choose one of them before things got worse… So I asked out matt… Paris was traumitized, certain that I would choose her..I did my best to help her feel better and a lot of it worked… Soon afterward, I helped paris get a girlfriend (which was awkward), and theyve been going out for a little while, but paris doesnt seem completely happy in that relationship.. And she still flirts with me.. A lot.

Now me and matt have been going out for nearly 2 months… And I love him, but theres one problem… I think I still love paris too… I feel violent twinges of jealousy when shes with her girlfriend, and I catch myself daydreaming about her and flirting back… The other day we were alone and we kissed… It felt great but I feel horrible that 2 people were cheated on… what if I made the wrong choice, choosing matt? is it possible to love two people?? why do I feel so strongly about both of them?? I’ve hinted to paris I still love her, what should I do…?? I know that if I told paris I wanted her back, she would break up with her girlfriend in a heartbeat… Her girlfriend seems to be more of a support beam… What do I do I love both of them and dont want to hurt either of them…??

Answer #1

Like I said to the other girl in a similar situation take a break from them both, and figure out who is better for you, and who makes you more happy! it will be hard but you need time to figure it all out! personally I don’t think you are in love with paris still, I think that jealousy drives people to think they are in love but its just because its someone they can no longer have. so I would stay stick with matt, but you are the only one that knows what is best for you. so think it all through, take time with it. hopefully they will both understand!

Answer #2

I tried to get them to leave me alone during that first week and a half so I could have some time to think, and they both didnt… no matter how much I asked. They were both fighting eachother and eventually got into an actual fist fight… that cant happen again..

I’ve been trying and I just cant make up my mind and im really starting to hate myself for it

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