my son is making fun of others

BUT WHAT PUNISHMENT FITS THE CRIME??? THAT’S MY BIG QUESTION…for those of you who think this requires a punishment that is… AND I have not yet decided to “punish” or “lecture” or whatever else. Thanks to all for your advise though. I really appreciate it!

Rayne, not all kids do this, and it’s not ok.

If my son was teasing other children and being mean, I would punish him. Imagine what it’s like to be the other boy.

kids tend to ban together and ostrosize each other, its natral. its good that you care enough to intervene, this may be what sends your chold down the right road of life. that being said, I dont think you should take it so sereously, your child has done this to about a thousand others that you just dont know about. in short, you should definitly speak with the kid about equality and tolerance but let him go the the basketball game, its not the end of the world.

You are the parent - take control so he’s knows this isn’t acceptable behavior - it’s not your family’s values and how they look at/treat others…good job !

This kind of thing does happen at school. It’s upsetting to those who receive it. Talk to your son about it. and do something since you know about it. If you do nothing he will think it’s ok. I think I would be a lot harder on my son. It’’s a lesson to be learned. You and your son’s father should talk about it. Tell him if it continues you will take something away. He will be punished. You need to nip this in the bud. better yet , invite the overweight boy to your house. Your son needs to realize he should not judge others.

Not all kids do this. Those who are taught differently dont. Those who are taught tolerance and acceptance and have values instilled in them dont. Sure you cant prevent your kid from doing everything. But if he learns that that type of behavior will not be tolerated by you, it will be a positive step in the right direction. Dont let them tell you it is no big deal. Kids have to learn at an early age what is right and what is wrong. By the time they start fighting and bullying, it’s too late to turn back the clock and teach them this stuff…

I’m 18 and at that young age, I was very much in the predicament that poor (picked-on) child is in now. To an extent, still am, social-wise. I don’t care much for people, including my own family.

It is not right, and your son WILL get violent on the physical and social level if you let this continue for much longer. An appropriate punishment would be a warning, then if it persists, take something(TV, Video Games, Computer) away for a day. Again, up it to a week. A week should be the limit, so just tack stuff on till the end of the week if he still doesn’t get the message. It works. Had to deal with it once or twice.

Tell Your Son That If You Catch Him Calling That Boy Then You Will Like Ban Him From Going Basketball For A Bit Or Take Something Away From Him He Likes For A Bit.He Will Hopefully Soon Stop lol

I’d say speak to him (as in give him a warning that you do not tolerate this type of behaviour and explain why he shouldn’t be making fun of the other boy). The give him an ultimatum… like if he doesn’t stop you’ll take away something important or prevent him from playing basketball and then ACTUALLY follow through on it.

Most children don’t always know the first time what they are doing is so very wrong…so I’d suggest first actually speak to him and then if that doesn’t work punish him.

I wouldnt head straight to punishment. Teaching empathy, rewarding good behavior (tolerance, acceptance), is a lot more effective then punishing him (if my parent punished me for treating someone badly, lets just say my feelings towards that person wouldnt exactly improve…). Talk to him first.