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How to handle very controlling parents?

I have an issue, I am a college student now I’m about to turn 20 in a month and 13 days. I am from NYC and I go to school in NC recently my parents ad moved to CT and I have a younger brother he is 7. They want me to transfer to a college in CT. But I told them that I don’t want too. And they made this big issue about my tuition and how they can’t pay it anymore. So they said that if I transfer up there that I can get a car and they can finish paying for school for me. They had cut me off. So I am now paying my own way, which is really hard because I can’t get any scholarships, I always get rejected. My family memeber tell me not to transfer because I have a life to live and that he is not my child. The main reason why they want me to come up there is too pick up my lil brother from school everyday. But I am about to turn 20 and I want to have fun with my life. I have been watching my lil brother ever since he was born. They act like I don’t have a life. What should I do?

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Answer #1

hah well that sucks. tell them that you know whats going on && you understand. they do have a point && your are trying to decide which one will work out in the long run.

have them help you pay your way, so you’ll have more time for schoolwork && all that && than tell them there must be neighbor’s around or other students looking for some money to drive your little brother home every day.

or you could just transfer you might think it sucks && it does but I know people who did it && loved it you get to start over && new freinds. new fake id’s. new guys to mess with fun place to party right? plus they’ll make the whole && thing easier

Answer #2

your parents did that to control you. you are 20 so if you would of moved with them to CT, almost every aspect and moment if your life would revolve around them. picking up your brother - for them, and doing other things, for them.

don’t get me wrong, helping your parents out sometimes is okay, but if you do it too much they will try to exploit you and threaten to not help you with college funds - as they have already told you - just to get you to do everything for them. you have your life ahead of you, do not let your parents exploit you and agree to their terms without getting your own met.

if they took your college fund support away because you refused to do what they wanted, and they ignored decisions, then what does that say about your parents? hmm…seems like a one-way thing to me.

good luck with everything!

visit these sites for further help:

They also talk about narcissistic parents, too.

http://narcissisticparents.blogspot.com/

http://narcissisticparentsrevealed.blogspot.com/

Answer #3

here are your options: -tough love. tell them how you feel, and dont be nice about it. They have to know that your an adult and cannot “pick up your brother from school”. -On the other hand they will pay the bills for school and you might get a car out of it. -transfer to Ct but only if you dont have to pick up your brother.

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