My mum is making me suicidal

I am 24 years old and living with my mum brother and sister in a 2 bed flat. I give my Mum 40% of my wages every month for the past 2 years but it’s not enough for her. She keeps complaining that I don’t give her enougha dn I am selfish and we’re a family, therefore there should be no such thing as ‘my money, your money’

My brother is 22 and he has never worked in his life because he doesn’t want to work for other people. The two of them together make my life hell. My mum keeps crying and calling me slefish and telling me she hates me. I told her I want to move out but will still send her money and she said she’d rather die than take anymore money off me. But I know once end of next month is here she’ll start again. I don’t mind giving her money I just cannot give her all my wages. I have been saving for 3 years for a Master but cannot even do that as all my money goes to my family.

My mum said to me yesterday after an arguement that I should move out and get out of her face, when I then said ‘ok, I will’ she said she hates me and I’m selfish

Answer #1

So your choices are stay with your mom and be suicidal, or move out and try and make a life for yourself? Why dont you move out? And stop supporting your brother… Why should he get a job as long as you’re supporting him? You’re enabling his lack of direction…

Answer #2

You are an adult. Get the hell out of your moms flat. If financing is a problem get some roommates to help with the bills. Your mom seems to be the selfish one and ask the bro what the hell has he done for the family lately.

Answer #3

I’d tell her ‘your lucky I’m giving you money at all’ lol I dont really know what to say but please dont get suicidal even if your mum says that im sure she wouldn’t want you to die!

Answer #4

well for starters, you are NOT SELFISH. your giving your mum 40% of the money YOU earn to provide her. if anyone should recieve it, its you, your the one who worked for it. your old enough to move out and do your own things and spend your own money instead of funding for her. if your mother loved you and wanted you to be happy then she wouldnt want your money and work to provide for herself, she shouldnt be sponging off her own daughter. but shes hate you, and says your selfish when your not your giving her your money you earn, why are you sticking around for someone so ungrateful? move out! live your life and spend your money on yourself! you deserve it, yes it may be hard but you should start putting yourself for a change.

Answer #5

Look you need to move out for a bit keep sendin money but not all of your wages after you leave you dont have to send money its yours so use it however you like.

Look you aint selfish dont even think that. your mum is just going through hard times and she shouldnt be taking it out on you.

Answer #6

You are 24 why are you still at home anyway , move out and start the rest of your life and as you and your mom will find absence makes the heart grow fonder , I speak from experience except I was 16 when I moved out .

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