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My mom disgusts me

I’m completely disgusted by my own mother and don’t even want to be around her anymore. She has sex like every night, smokes a pack of cigs every other day, the whole entire house smells gross from it including the car!, drinks her vodka and orange juice every night, and also smokes weed. What bothers me the most is how she said she and her husband would never smoke weed ever!!! They ‘said’ it’s completely wrong and have no use for it what so ever. They told me how could they even think someone would do drugs! Well I went in there the other day when they weren’t home to see if they were and I found like 2 or 3 bongs, paper folding, and weed still in the bongs!!! With lighters and burn holes on the floor. I’m not going to say anything to her about it because I did go in their room when they were home.

Also she walks around with just a tshirt on, something she has never done before she got married. It’s so gross, I don’t want to see my moms ‘parts’. She will be like sitting on the couch with just a shirt on and it’s so disgusting. Everytime I say something it’s like shutup to me. How do I just let this slide off of me. It just bothers me so much and she likes to poke my butt which is also completely wrong. I don’t know where those fingers have been and she takes it all like a joke. I have looked her in the eye, sat her down told her it bothers me, and she still does it. She won’t let me have conseling, apprentally I don’t need it.

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Answer #1

Hmm… does your Mom take care of you at all? Does she cook you food, drive you to school, wash your laundry, help with homework, etc? What I’m asking is, does she still do her motherly duties? If she does, then I don’t think it’s as bad as it sounds. She has her own life to live too (good or bad), and as long as she’s not ditching her responsibility for you, then it’s not so bad.

However you should try to talk to her and see why she’s going downhill and not caring about her health and looks. Have (or try to have) a civilized conversation with her about her smoking weed, lack of clothing, and just being a bad role model. Tell her that it’s not a suitable and safe environment for you. Tell her that you just want to feel some stability in your home, and you don’t want to see her become an addict. Tell her mostly about how YOU feel about the situation, because if you start pointing fingers she might stop listening to you and tell you to shut up. Sometimes adults can be very childish. You should do something about it and be the mature person in the household.

If you think you need counseling, try and talk to your school counselor. Your mom doesn’t have to know. If you want to report your mom and her husband for being irresponsible parents, just know that you will probably be taken away from them. Ask your counselor all the questions you need, or even a teacher that you trust if you don’t have a school counselor.

Answer #2

So yhur mom likes to drink and smoke DEAL WITH IT..my dad smokes weed…I have no problem with it…just get over it

Answer #3

well however old you are remember its only a few years till graduation and then your free your mother is obviously set in her ways but I definietly dont approve of her behavior if you want ot be bold I have had friends who have called te cops on her parents to make a statement the cops never told her parents who called and till this day they probably still think it was a nosy neighbor lol but anywho reach out to a school counselor thats who I had to see for my anger problems after I was jumped in school lol they really can help hope I ahve helped if you want to get even hide their bongs or flush their pot and fill it with oregano lol

Answer #4

Hon, first of all, talk to a counselor no matter what your mom thinks. If she is obviously not listening to you, its better to get third people involved who perhaps will make her listen. If worse gets to worse, I would call Child Protective Services. I know that might sound harsh but they help both you and your mother. CPS will try to help her become a better mother to you through counseling and other services.

Answer #5

have you tried talking to a counselour at school? tell your mom this: “Mom, did you know your setting up an example for me? Did you know that when I grow up, ill probably be doing the exact same things your doing? is this how you want me to be when I grow up?” if your mom is poking your “u-no-what” its actually sexual abuse. have you also tried calling this number: 1-800-4-A-CHILD

Answer #6

that is not a good sight to see…try talking to a counselor

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