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My 21 yr old daughter hates me

My daughter has been gay since 14 she is now 21 lives with a new girl who hates our family because 1. Our religous beliefs, 2. We still see our grandson whom is 4 and his mom has been in our lives for 8 years. She talked her ex into having 3. We still talk to her ex the last one of 4 years, she tells people we don’t like her because she is gay which is a lie I don’t care what hewr prefrence is, just as long as she is healthy and safe, this new girl has stopped all communication with our daughter, and when we find a way she makes up more lies to keep us from our daughter, our daughter has always been very involved with family and church and no can talk to her what can we do? Sorry I can’t spell

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Answer #1

I think you should definately try to keep in contact with her. Call her as much as you can, even if she doesnt answer or return the call, she will know that you are calling and making that attempt to stay in contact with her. When you talk to her, ask how the new girl is ..even if you dont care…just so she knows that you are concerned with what is going on in her life and relationship. Lesbian or not, its a relationship like any other..and in saying that, partners do have issues with ex’s and such but In a way it kind of seems like her new girlfriend is a bit controlling if she is getting so upset that she is making your daughter cut off contact with the church she went to and her family especially regarding her son. I dont think your daughter hates you. I think sometimes we get blinded by love and we cant see anything else past that. We take family for granted especially ones that have always been there for us, because we expect that they always will be there for us. Just give it some time, make sure she knows that you love her and support her, and anyone who knows you, will know that it would be ridiculous to assume you hate a person because they are gay..when that would be like saying you hate your own daughter..good luck.

Answer #2

when her girl’s not around talk to her, and tell her that you’re her mother and you’re fine with what she’s doing, and tell her that you missed her and you love her, I mean… I’m sure that your daughter loves you if she digs a lil’ bit inside her heart and starts trusting you as her mother!!!

Answer #3

This is a hard situation but I think that peole reveal themselves in their true form eventually. Keep trying to contact her so she knows your still there for her and she may come around eventually. good luck. xx

Answer #4

I’m sorry to hear of your family problems. I would suggest that you continue to write or call you daughter, and continue to let her know that you love her, and that you accept and welcome her and her life choices. Do not judge your daughter or her lover. Do not call her lover a liar (even if you think she is) because that will only put your daughter in the position of siding with her lover. As lesbians, they will be very defensive and expecting hatred (especially in Texas - I graduated HS in Texas, and it is an intolerant state concerning homosexuality.) You can only try to defuse that attitude with understanding of their problems. For what it’s worth, that is my opinion. You are welcome to take as much or as little as you wish.

Good Luck!!

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