Opinions on moving out from home?

A lot of my life I’ve been wanting to run away, I never really have because I never new what I would do or what would happen. But since I am turning 16 very soon, I will be the legal age in my country to move out of home. I have been thinking about it.

I do sort of have a plan. I’ve already appiled to get this youth allowance thing which is going to be payed into my account, it’s about 400 dollars a month. (it helps pay for my course at the moment).

I was also thinking of applying for this ‘unable to live at home’ thing, I was told you get 350 dollars every fortnight if you are unable to live at home due to stress of family members and things.

Reasons for wanting to leave: My mother is a stuck up b*tch for one, thinks she’s gods gift to man, she ‘always’ has to be right, she’s very abusive, yells and swears at my all the time, she also insults me out of no where for no reason and it’s never a joke. (e.g. Me: “I had an idea” Mother: “Did it hurt?”). She’s very childish for a 40 year old..

And also, I didn’t like the way she threattened to kick me out if I didn’t get a job. She wants me to get a job so she can have more money which means I don’t get a cent. Because I refussed, she said that I didn’t want to grow up and went off her nut. I rejected it for two reasons, one I’m not giving her money that I earn, two, I currently have a problem with leaving the house(which I am working on, going to see someone about it soon)… Anyway.. She said that I didn’t want to grow up and that if I wanted someone to take care of me I should marry a man, or an older man at that, or I should go get pregnant so that I could sit on my a$$ all day(sorry I don’t want to follow in her foot steps).

Thats what kind of tipped me over the edge, even though she came back later and said she was sorry, I just can’t forgive. I’m sick of her crap. She tells me I’m the child she’s the parent, but she doesn’t act like that. She’s a god damn bully. And thats not even half of it.. There’s also my sister which gets treated better and gets away with murder. and yadda yadda yadda…

I really want to leave, but there are things that hold me back. It’s hard for a 16 year old to rent a place or even board with other people, they don’t trust you to pay your share o.O That there is the only thing that holds me back, other then that I have everything planned…

Always have at least 2 months worth of rent for a place, have money for food for a certain amount of time, have backup money, keep handy phone numbers on a bit of paper (things like shelters and stuff for back up)

and so on, and this is really long sorry.. I tend to ramble.. Y.Y.. But anyway, what are your opinions on the matter?

Answer #1

Dear mythic,

I am seventeen well for the next week and then I will be 18years old, but I have been on my own since I was 15years old and it really is not as hard as you might think it is the first few months are the hardest it is very liberatting and rewarding too.

You can do it if you really set your mind to it I am sure. Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and and a pretty good idea of what it is that you would need to do and what not.

I would say go for it..you are not going to fail I ams ure of that.

And maybe you and your mohter can work things out with space. I dont know it is worth the try though

Answer #2

I’m never good at giving short stories.. I need to work on that..

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