What do I say when my mom goes to the therapist with me?

Well a little more in depth to y your in therapy would help but I understand that that is personal. so in general say what is on your mind it is easier to deal with problems when there out in the open especially if they involve your mother. if you feel like you cannot talk with her in there ask her to step out and just talk with the therapist untill you feel comfortable talking to and around your mother. remember these sessions are to help you and possibly your mother (again I don’t know all the facts) so just talk about what ever you feel needs talked about if you can’t talk about it in front of her then it is perfectly ok to ask her to step out. Best Wishes Will

What we havent actually been told is why you’re going, how long you’ve been going, if it is the first time, whether it is just this one time she’s going with you, etc etc etc. It is quite common to include a parent in a session now and again. You only have to say what you want to say and what you feel comfortable saying…

I never let my mom go with me. It should be a priviate conversation between you and your therapist. I never felt comfortable enough to talk with my mom there…she was never around until I went to therapy…then she pretended to be the best mom. Goodluck though…hope everything goes well.

It sounds like you don’t want her there with you. Which is normal! Like stated above just ask her if she can sit in the waiting area for you. Talk to your therapist about things you can say as well. Sometimes the therapist will want the parent in there as well. When I was a teen and my mom was in the room, I just never talked. Partly because I didn’t want to hear her reactions, or have her reactions on the way home. But also, now as an adult, I didn’t talkto her or want her in there because I really didn’t know how I felt or what to say or how to say it. Ask your mom to be patient. When you are ready to talk with her you will. she probably will respect the fact that you stated your thoughts to her. Most moms just want their kids to be open and honest with them. Even though that is not telling her what you are talking to your therapist about. she may see it as a stepping stone!

talk to your tharpist, it seem to me that you should have time with them alone, but it depends on what your theropest is tring to do, they may want to get you two talking.