My mom talks like a therapist

Emogal, make sure you talk to your therapists about your abandonment issues. No wonder you have them. Not only adopted, but no Dad either. Your Mom loves you very much, and only hopes to help you. Good Luck!!

Sometimes as parents, or even spouses, when our kids or husbands come to us with problems, we fall into the trap of trying to come up with solutions, rather than offer compassion and understanding. I used to do this all the time with my husband, until we realized that he was just venting and didn’t need me to come up with various types of solutions and practical advice. He wanted to know that I cared. At the time, this was an astounding revelation to me and from then on, all was much better, although it took some practice.

Do you think that’s sometimes the case with your mom? That you might actually need a hug, and she’s trying to be Doctor Phil? Why not talk to her about it, even cite my example. She sounds like a great mom… I think you can work this out.

I know she really does care and maybe I am seeking attention im just scared she will leave me someday I dont know why I feel this way I’ve felt this way since I was six I think maybe cause im adopted I sorta feel abandond by my birth parent (even though I’ve never met them) I feel any adult who loves me will give me away. (I THANK GOD EVERY DAY THAT SHES MY MOM AND I LOVE HER WITH ALL MY HEART) so maybe I should just get over it thanks for your comment