Last Name Opinions

If it was me and I didnt see me and this man lasting together in a relationship I would for sure put it in my last name. But the choice is yours

Keep it your last name because if you break up and find someone else to get married to then you dont want your child having your exs last name and you get a new one.

If it was me and I didnt see me and this man lasting together in a relationship I would for sure put it in my last name. But the choice is yours

The kid should have your last name. he/she might not even want anything 2 do with his/her father. give the baby your last name, or you might regret it.

When my parents divorced my mom went back to her maiden name. There were times when officials (schools, etc) would ask for my bro/sis/my last names and we’d have to say “well our last name is … but my mom’s is …” and we always got a weird look. When my mom was remarried, it was the same problem as she changed her last name again, but ours was the same as our birth dad’s. My sister has a 3 year old girl who has her father’s last name. They are going through a divorce right now, and to avoid the problems that we had growing up, my sister is just going to keep her married name.

So I guess its not just about “well I dont want to be reminded of my ex from my daughters name” but there is a lot of confusion involved when you and your kid don’t match up. On paper, how would anyone know that was really your kid?

and about the child support comment, don’t worry about the child having your last name and it being easier to get it… the hospital should give you a proof of paternity papers and that will take care of that because the father would have to sign it. even if he doesn’t the department of health can help you with paternity testing if he were to ever deny the baby.

If you don’t see you lasting I suggest you keeping your last name, my friends parents are divorced and her mom cant stand the thought of calling her by her dads last name but that’s what is on her birth certificate. She’s now 19-years-old and wants to have it changed to her moms since that’s who she lives with, even though she does see her dad she’s much closer to her mom because she was her main provider her entire life.

I think that in this situation, the child should have your last name. You aren’t married, and you already are doubting how long the relationship is going to last - it would be better to put your last name, then to have to deal with his last name after you break up or having to go through the court system (which takes money and time) to change your childs last name.

I gave my daughter my last name because I could never see myself marrying her father. And I don’t regret it for a second. I did go after him for child support (he didn’t sign the paternity papers at the hospital), but I do get child support because he never showed up to court to deny her.

Well… My daughter took my last name due to insurance reasons.. if the baby is not on the fathers insurance or the parents of the fathers insurance then the baby needs to take your last name. I ‘m not sure if it’s different in any state, but that is how it is in oklahoma.

both is always an option but it’s usually the mother’s name the baby will have if your not married before the baby was born…isnt that a law??

ithink you should give the baby the dad’s last name…because then you could get child support easier from him if you guys break up. cus it wont be that hard to prove its his kid.

I think your baby should have both your surnames with a hyphen (-) in between, then it shows that the baby belongs to both of you , even though you may be split up

No, me and my fiance are not married and my son has his last name.

It’s your kid, you claim it!