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Okay, Im 13 and My dad left me and my now two year old sister when I was twelve .My mom is now struggling and is getting frustrated since she has to raise two kids by herself. My grandmother comes to visit/stay for a week then goes back home, she just cmes over to baby sit. When my mom goes to work on Mondays 3pm-9pm I baby sit my 2 year old sister, and I have to make shure the house is clean and make shure im taking care of her but im Addicted to my labtop and cell phone. but I no longer have my cell phone because my mom know’s that im texting to much. so I only have my labtop. She comes home and get madd/pissed b/c she thinks the house is dirty b/c there is 7 dishes in the sink that I did not wash or the floor is stickyy. She comes inn my room and yells and constantly yells why the house is dirty and I say it isnt so she goes and her room grabs her her black belt with the little silvers spikes and whoops me with it. (it hurts soo baddd!) the she makes me clean the so called dirty house . she will keep me up till 3:00am if she wants and make me clean and then I would have school the next morningg. This happens mon-fri. I go to school every day with bumps and marks on my legs but only my friends and teachers noticee. is this abusee???

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Answer #1

It sounds like you are being forced to live as a person older than you really are. You should really go talk with your school counselor. They can help. This is abuse, and it isn’t your fault. BUT there is a high probability that you could be taken away from your mom and sister.

Answer #2

The spiked belt is just going too far. The yelling and such is a part of emotional abuse. Sounds like your mom is kinda lazy. You’re being forced to mature earlier than what you are supposed to. Tell a councelor or someone you trust that can help you.

Answer #3

yes! talk 2 som1

Answer #4

Your mom is making you do things that she can do,the only thing your responsible for is watching your sisters until she comes back,and when she is they’re her responsibility,tell your teachers to see if they can get someone highly enforced to get your mom in control or go to a friends house when she’s asleep and stay there until she can get some help on her issues,she’s abusing you and you don’t deserve it.

Answer #5

How about at 8:00, you unhook from your laptop…go into the kitchen and wash those 7 dishes, and make sure the floor isn’t sticky…that the living room is picked up…??? That would save you from getting into trouble when she walks in the door.

Your mom is under lots of stress because she’s a single mom… she needs your help, and it makes your life hard, too…I know that. Taking care of a two year old from the time schools out till your mom gets home, is a lot of responsiblity. There’s a good chance that once you “decide” to do the things she’s asking, she’ll mellow out, and your relationship with her will mellow out, too…

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Answer #6

no its not abuse. you need to do your part. your mom shouldnt have to do all the work and housework. youre lucky she doesnt have a man there molesting you and you can feel safe when you go home. youre lucky she gives you food and you dont have to go hungry and worry about what you are going to eat at night. youre lucky she doesnt sell all of your stuff like your laptop and ish to buy crack and weed. not everyone has the comfort that you do. you sound ungrateful to me…

Answer #7

Your Mom’s obviously under a lot of stress - just do your best to lighten the load and do your part…Take care !!

Answer #8

I CANT no where ,to goo, im not staying eith people I dun noo. -scared mood-

Answer #9

Yeah it is.
You should definitely tell someone. Go stay at a friend or relatives house.

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