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So I’m dating this guy, Josh, and we’ve only been dating for 2 months or so. But there’s this chick Bre who keeps telling me that he’s cheating on me with her. So one night, like 3 weeks ago, Bre told me that she spent the night at Josh’s house. And I asked Josh about it and he said that she didn’t. Then I ended up finding out from his mom a week later that she did spend the night. The Bre said that that night her and Josh had sex. I asked Josh about it and of course he said no. The a couple days ago I told Josh that I absolutely do NOT want Bre going over his house if they’ll be there alone. But she ended up going over there anyway. And Josh said he was gonna tell her not to come over but she was already almost there by the time he ws gonna tell her not to come. So now Bre’s telling me that she gave him a hand job and blow job and that they were gonna have sex but his mom came home. I asked Josh about it yet again and of course he said no. But I don’t know who to believe. Help?

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Answer #1

Megan,

I can’t imagine what you must be feeling right now. Being hurt by someone we care about, possibly being betrayed by them, is one of the worst feelings anyone can come across.

To start, it seems to me that Josh is being very dishonest with you. Bre keeps going to his house, yet he denies it. When he can’t deny it, he’s making excuses for it. The bottom line is, it doesn’t seem like he’s taking you or your feelings into consideration. If he did, he wouldn’t be having this girl around at all. Especially not if she’s been upsetting you how she is.

If he did care, he would have told her no – no matter where she was coming from or how far she was to his place. He would be telling her that he has a girlfriend, and that you’re both not comfortable with her staying. He would not be allowing any of this to happen, at all.

It’s going to hurt, but I think that you should break up with Josh. I think that you should let Josh know that you’re not okay with what has been going on, and that you will not be with him when he can’t be honest with you or respectful of your feelings. If you don’t do so, there’s a very high chance that things will continue going as they are. And, well, you know what? You deserve much better than that.

I hope this helps, Take care.

Answer #2

If he lied at the beginning saying “NO! she she did not come over…” Then, what he is saying about having sex with her (He said he did not have sex with her o_0) is a lie too. You can never trust guys. Dump him, find some other guy and make his jelous!!!

Answer #3

Take it from someone whose had those little tricks played on them before…if he hasn’t cheated already he’s thinkin bout the idea of it and you needa find someone way better

Answer #4

What do you mean you dont know who to believe? >>Then I ended up finding out from his mom a week later that she did spend the night.>>Are you that naive? Its right there is black & white! The other “girlfriend” keeps telling you and you just arent listening!! WAKE UP! If you keep closing your eyes to things that are right in front of you, then you are going to have trust issues in every relationship your in because of this guy! Get out while you still have some dignity.

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