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will try keep this as simple as it aint…

new job, few nice girls, got my head down and cracked on wanted to do well..

few weeks back 1 them I know least about, and work most indirectly with, she givin me signs, eye contact few seconds other side room while conversations going on, flikin her hair about, looking over her shoulder when going out room, askin each other bout music, clubs and that we like - mayb just bein nice, but 1-2-3 even 4 seconds of eye contact while we supposed to be listening to a director talk says sumit bit more. even showin interest in going pub watch football… lol

I wernt fussed at all bout her till I started thinkin she might be interested - she nice tho and I got a lot of time for her

ask her out, got 2 outcomes. 1- she says no, my mind is at rest and stop thinkin bout her this way, aint distracted every time she walks in room etc but mayb have some tense situations from it, and girl office gossip is pingin about before you know it. might do me no good for work credibility 2- she says yeh. which leads onto 2 more posibilities realy… we hook up, find out shes cool or not -for the “friends” scenario or - we start dating, like each other more blah blah moves on, means a relationship with someone at same work place

small office like 25 people lol dont do any work with her and wont. few minutes per week doin stuff work related - she comes and chats in my department most days tho

duno - obvious I supose seeing as I post here. anyone else had similar situation been good or gone sour ? let us know - need put me mind at rest and dont wana jump in just askin her out incase of above…

cheers

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Answer #1

don’t hook up in the work place… you will still see her around. it’s not fair to any of your coworkers if it doesnt work out, and it’ll be really uncomfortable for you. why not look for girlies at the pub or church or something?

Answer #2

there MUST be some place you can go to socialize with women you deam quality enough to get to know. I used the pub and church because they are almost polar opposites. Do you ever go to the library, the grocery store?… women have to eat and some of them read. How about the cute chick at the coffee shop on your way to work?… you are just making excuses. if you want to pursue this chick at work… then do it, but I’m warning you, it’s a bad idea. unless you get married, it’s going to suck eventually. (if you do get married, feel free to funmail me and “I told you so” :) ) Enjoy your weekend!

Answer #3

girls I meet at the pub are generaly drunk… or getting there

I dont feel justified when one of the parties involved is intoxicated - not getting a genuine vibe from that person. not just from drink

besides - because I know a bit about her now is why I like her. im not one to jump into a relationship, especialy with a stranger I have to make an effort to like purely because aesthetics tell me I should

I never liked this girl in this way for… 2 or 3 months. was purely a girl who works upstairs. more I know about her, and more aparent we like each other, makes me feel with valid reason to take her out

maybe the hit and hope method is best … no luck yet though, and now I find a girl I genuinely like for not primarily looks

dont do church! lol

Answer #4

lol mayb, but gettin smiles returned from girls I see walkin down the street in public works as a nice moral boost but doesnt make me want to know them

I think your right though, I dont make enough effort to seek, and when a girls interested in me I find a reason why id honestly rather watch my team play, watch films or play music.

ah ha! just clicked. sorry to have bothered you, its just I smoke too much

ok realisation is the first step eh

thanks

Answer #5

no problem buddy. let me know how it works out.

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