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What if my inlaws are ruining my relationship?

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I have a one year old daughter. She is my only child. I suffered from sever post-partum depression after she was born, and it was almost impossible for me to leave her with anyone but her father (my boyfriend of 5 years). Even when I did leave her with him, it was never for very long. When I was finally able to go back to work a few months ago, my boyfriend's mom started taking care of my daughter, which I was never truly comfortable with since she is very absent-mided and forgetful. I told my boyfriend that I did not want our daughter to ever be left alone with his dad because his dad is an alcoholic that drinks pretty much from the time he wakes up until he goes to bed. My boyfriend was not too happy with my request because that's his dad and he raised my boyfriend and nothing bad ever happened so he doesn't see what the big deal is. Even though he didn't agree, we told his mom not to leave our daughter with his dad. She said fine. Well, a few days ago I found out that she left our daughter alone with his dad. My boyfrined told his mom again not to do it, and she asked why. He told her I was not comfotable with our daughter being left with his dad because he drinks. His mother was pissed. She called me and said I just don't like his dad, and that I am making things up,etc. Now I am not comfortable leaving my daughter at his parent's house at all. My boyfriend and I are not talking and he thinks this is all my fault and he's mad that his mom and I are not getting along now. Is it just me, am I crazy or should my boyfriend have my back?