im scared, to have a relationship

ok, im fourteen & I’ve had 5 boyfriends. but I wasent truly in love with them, & it lastest about acouple of weeks. but I dint see them, I would avoid meeting them cause I was worried I would have to kiss them, which I want to, I just got a feeling I cant kiss.. or I`ll muck up. then there came this guy I kinda liked , & he was in love with me & we decided to go out to city, & id promised him a kiss, yeah I kissed him on the lips but when he went to (tounge me) I freaked out & looked away pretending my friend was watching & the next time he tried, I lyed I felt sick, & in which case I was abit casue I was nervous, & im scared to have a boyfriend cause of kissing them “/ any ideas.

Answer #1

Its ok give it time…really find out about eachother when you doo ull feel comfortable :):):)

Answer #2

“ok, im fourteen & I’ve had 5 boyfriends. “

Right there that kind of spells out “immature”.

Why don’t you wait until you grow up to have a relationship?

Seriously…how does a relationship differ than a friendship at your age?

Answer #3

haha no offence but I’ve bin going out with my boyfriend since I was 14 and its not just sum small think its serious. were not just friends its more than that- its a relationship.

you cant tell whether shes immature and you cant condenm everyone who has a relationship at that age, as most people do. Its not that young!

Answer #4

ok this isnt beth its her boyfriend lol — its ok to be nervous, you shudnt think that you have to kiss them if you dont want to. if they try pressuring you into it then they dont respect what you feel comfortable with. when you feel like your ready then you wait till it feels right and you make the first move. you cant be bad at kissing you can only have a different technique so just do what feels natural. hope this helps :)

Answer #5

you shouldn’t be so worried about it…I know almost every girl worries about being a bad kisser, but just try to relax about it… don’t do it if you aren’t ready… save it for who you want to give it to, and don’t feel pressured into it… do it when you want to and don’t worry about being bad… it ll comes with experience and time… I got my first kiss from my boyfriend whom I’ve been with for almost 6 months and he said I was really good for my first time… all this time has passed and it’s gotten much better… “all things are difficult before they are easy”… good luck…

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