im 14 and deciding to let myself be fingered?

I’ve always been against sex and physical stuff. but I;ve been with my boyfriend for over a year. and I’ve onl jut not long ago ben groped and by soe-one who I’m comfortable to let do it. I’ve never met anyone like him, everyone lately has been pressuring me to have sex with him, and although he has already had sex,(he is 14 now and regrets it more than anything, I spent three quarters of our relationship reassuring him I dont care about his past, cause he’s so different now, he respects me more than anything) im still a virgin, and I have NO experience at all. we’ve spoken about it a lot cause we talk about everything, and he said, he defanatley doesnt want sex, and neither do I, but he said by now (after a year) he would of expected handjobs and fingering, I said I’m not sure, with the whole pressurising thing, I’m not sure if I really want to, or its me feelig pressured. I feel like I do want to, but I dont want to regret it after, today he come lose to fingering me, because yesterday we spoke about it, and I didnt actually give him an answer, so I’m thinking he just took a chance, I knew what he was going to do, and I kept panicing in my head about whether I’d let him or say no, I said no cause I didnt know what I wanted, and I didnt want it to be too late. I’m fifteen may 2010. and I think its a very more suitable age, I’d rather be able to say I was fifteen when I first did smethig, instead of 14. but he is 15 in two months. and I feel like I want to, if I was a year older, I would have, but its just my age D;. so hmmm. advice please?

Answer #1

well when your 15 its not going to make any difference…how do you know your not going to be saying the exact same thing when your 15. age is just a number. dont fell pressured into doing it though. you do it because you like too and wanna feel close to him yeno?

Answer #2

okay. yeah it might be nerves, cause usually im always dead nervous about things and once done im completely fine. thankyou xxx

Answer #3

If YOU feel like you want to then its you feeling comfortable with it. I think your just afraid it will change something or change how some other people look at you. My advice is talk to him about this and then if you do try it you can both be ready in case your uncomfortable with it.

Answer #4

I’m fifteen in about 8 monts.

I’ve been thinking about it for a few weeks I feel like I want to but im not sure if its because I feel pressured I dont want to do anything im going to regret my boyfriend said he wouldnt even finger me properly if I didnt want to to start with, he’d just rub around that area, he said if we want we can just try it. but I said I still want to think about it. thankyou xxx

Answer #5

k so if its just the age thing thats going onnn, how many more months til you turn 15? if its not really far way then its not really a big deal, im 14 and I’ve had sex, but I dont regret it because I’ve been with the guy so long were so connected I truly dont believe he will leave me, and if you feel that way too, maybe you should do it? but I don’t know this is a decision you should make all on you own, just sit down and have a good long think about it

Answer #6

if you are having ANY doubts dont do it..wait

Answer #7

okkk your only 14, you have plenty of time for that kind of stuff. just wait because obviously your confused so just wait.

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