How to make my Mom understand I don't like her boyfriend?

Ok… my mom has been seeing this guy for about a year and I have to say GOSH!!! im tired of it. He comes here, eats our food, has bad manners and is just plain annoying.. he’s obsessed with my mom. a few months ago me and my mom were at our family reunion and the first night that we were gone, HE CHEATED ON HER! and she didn’t do anything about it. and everytime they fight, he goes to his house, yes he has his own house even though he’s here all the time, and pouts and text messages my mom NON STOP! she says that she’s not going to call him but 5 mins later she does. and 10 mins later he’s back here and they go to bed. its soo annoying. I tell my mom that I don’t like him here all the time and its obvious because when he’s here im usually in my room or in a bad mood. how do I make her understand that I absolutely do not like this man?

Answer #1

Good Luck youll need it..

My moms been seeing her boyfriend for 6 months and recently when him and his roomate got into a fight. Shes been letting him stay in our 2 bd. apt. and same thing with him hes triphilin,messy,smokes a lottt in the apt., uses her car,

the only thing you can do is get mean dont sit your mom down and talk to her cause trust me I’ve tried that many times. you have to tell her in a very upfront and yes “rude” way to let her see just how mad off you are that shes allowing her relationship to interfer with your life and tell her that when he comes to your guys house it makes you feel like a stranger in your own home

flat out—be a biatch, be real, hold nothing back make sure she knows how much he bugs u {;

Answer #2

Dear erind_303, Your mother already knows you don’t like him. Your mother knows that he has cheated on her, you mother knows that he is probably using her. But your mother may not know that she could do better. She may be suffering from low self-esteem, low self-respect or even depression. Nagging at her about him will not help…the only thing that will help her if she realizes she deserves more. This can only be done by seeing a counsellor/therapist. Speak with another trusted adult in your family who may be able to speak with her about seeing a counsellor. Leave some books around about making good choices and self-esteem. But please stop telling her and nagging her…you will loose and may even drive a big wedge between the two of you. It is now she needs your support by just leaving her alone about it. Continue to go to your room when he is there and when he isn’t grab all the quality time with her you can. Sue…good luck

Answer #3

ask to sit down with her, or go out and grab a drink with eachother and say you need to talk to her about this. before you go ahead and say anything, ask her to not say anything or walk off until your finished =) hope everything goes well hunny xXx

Answer #4

Tell her openly. Give her boyfriend a bundle of hostile gaze. If it pesists, treaten to take her boyfriend to court.

Answer #5

Tell her. Doesn’t mean she’ll listen to you.

Answer #6

well be honest with your mom and tell her what you dont like about him and how her boyfriend is not good for her tell her but then you have to think what affect this situation will have on your mom and see if she really does love him because if she does then she will take in what you say but wont really do anything about it but if he tries to look at you in a way that nasty or touch you tell your mom right away and also talk to him about what you said well good luck

Answer #7

wow well I hope things work out Bye

Answer #8

you might want to tell your mom soon because practically the same thing happened to me but now hes my step dad. :( good luck

Answer #9

Sit down and talk to your mum.Tell her in a very serious way that you dont like him.^^

Answer #10

I’ve told her calmly then rudely… the rude part I got kicked out for. but she told me to come back and things would change but the hadn’t. its gotten to the point were im going to move out and go live with my grandmaw.

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