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I HATE my moms boyfriend please HELP!!!

I truly hate my moms boyfriend. he’s been staying here for about a week and he’s so annoying. he’s super loud in the morning, he drinks out of our jugs, and he doesnt help with bills or anything. ok, so im 5 months pregnant and I was sitting on my moms bed and he pushed me off her bed onto the floor. my mom sat there and just look she said absolutely nothing to him. me and my mom argued about it a couple days later and she said he was only playing but I feel like she’s just brushing it off and he crossed the line. im pissed that he’s even here.. the only reason he’s here is because his baby mother kicked him out of their house. he even went shopping at my job with his other girl while I was at work. he’s playing her and she acts like she cant see it. I told my mom that I dont like him and she gets mad. She even told me that I had to move out since I dont like it. I feel like she’s choosing him over me! what should I do?

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Answer #1

OMG! I know exactly how you feel because I’m in the same boat. It’s not easy when your mum cant see whats infront of her but its up too you to stay strong. Hopefully she will see whats going on and kick him out. I think it’s easier if you just stay out of both of there way because you will end up arguing with your mum about him and obviously your mum will take his side causing you a lot of pain. Just keep your head down and let her get on with what she’s doing, if she’s not old enough to realise whats going on then thats her fault not your’s. I dont say anything to my mum anymore because she says the same thing to me “to get out of the house and find somehwere else” and I cant tell you how much that hurts when she says that. But please be strong for your child. Things will get better soon… XD

Answer #2

I agree completely with hahanoway you can’t afford to get kicked out now since your pregnant. just back off your mom will see in time =( I’m sorry you have to see all that though =(

Answer #3

I neva liked my mom’s boyfriend either. he is messy and very annoying. but he neva crossed the line like that. I think you should juzt stay strong and since your mom doesnt want to listen to you, let her figure out herself, she’ll see someday. stay at home oif you can so that you have some help and support during and after your pregnancy. if he continues to bother you or if it gets worse, move in with someone you can trust and who you know will help you.

hope I helped, ghud luck -shania

Answer #4

I’m in a similar situation but my dad died in 2008 and my mom found a new guy. he doesn’t do anything for us. He just drinks eats and craps. I still miss my dad very much and I don’t want anyone to replace him so I’m so uncomfortable with him in the house. He doesn’t even pay attention to me. They just lock themselves in their room and forget about me so my grandmother has to take care of me. When he is here they don’t shower 4 2 to 3 days. It makes me sick and my grandmother and I are the only people in my house with sense. so my advice is to get some evidence and then maybe she will come to her senses

Answer #5

This might not be what you want to hear… but I think you should just back off. You are pregnant, and you do NOT want to get kicked out right now.

She will see everything you are seeing but right now she likes him so much that she just can’t. You have tried arguing with her and it doesn’t work. All you are doing it making her more and more angry.

TRY to give her the impression that you are respectful and you care about her relationship with him. Try to accept him. Ask him to get dinner with you, etc. She will be much more willing to hear you out on certain things (like drinking out of jugs, etc) if she thinks you already like him and you can approach her with these issues like an adult (no yelling, name calling, whining, etc).

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