I got raped by the love of my life:(

My man and I got in an argument and he got physical and extremely violent for the first time. He agressivly forced me to perform oral sex on him. even though I was violently throwing up, he managed to ejaculate all over my head and face. I was begging and pleading for my life and for him to stop. but he just continued. I called the cops without him knowing and they showed up and arrested him on the spot. He is charged with 1st degree Rape, 1st degree Robbery, 2nd degree Assult, and interfering with a 911 call. They are all class A felonys and he faces a very long time in prison. I guess that I’m writing this because for some reason I am starting to feel alittle guilt in which I know I shouldn’t feel. I think I’m having these feelings because I’m still in love with this man. I’ve known him sice I was 10 uears old and we had been inseperable since. He was my best friend. I keep thinking that if it was going to happen to me, why did it have to be him. Just 2 hours before the incident we were in love and as happy as can be. I just don’t understand. please help me.

Answer #1

Wow, what he did was definitely sick and insensitive. Sure, sometimes some people get carried away in an argument, and use hurtful words and threats, but when it gets violently physical, there must’ve been a deep psychological intent with that. It doesn’t mean that he isn’t the man the was before, it’s just that now he’s paying for what he did. And hopefully, he is feeling remorseful.

Just know that it’s normal to feel unfounded guilt, especially if you’ve been with someone for such a long time in a close, loving, and intimate relationship. It’ll take time to move on from this, and counseling really helps if you need it.

Answer #2

I am so sorry to hear that… I know I’ve never been through somthing like that but this most definitly was NOT your fault. dont think that. how could you think you made a man you luved so mad for him to that to you. no, that doesnt sound right at all. hes put away for a reason, how do you do that to someone and enjoy it. girl what he did to you is sick… if you need to talk, to just talk then im here to listen.. no doubt. dont be afraid to because im a stranger… ok??

Answer #3

Look Nikki,

This Son of a B!tch SHOULD go away for a long time. What he did to you is disgusting and shameful on his part. I am truly sorry you had to experience this but feeling guilty wont change any thing. I know you were in love with him but the second he violated his love for you ended. He no longer respected you or cared about you and a pig like that doesn’t deserve to be loved by anyone. Not you, me, or even his own mother. The only person that should love him is large 25 years to life prisoner named Bubba in the Federal Pen.. He’ll get what he’s got coming to him. Trust me. If those cops were worth their salt they stopped in a dark ally on the way to the county lock up and beat his a$$ for you. It was in no way your fault and don’t you think on it for a second. I wish all the good in the world upon you and hope that from this incident you become a stronger, better, and more confident version of yourself.

Answer #4

Sorry ,for what happened.But gal how can you even feel guilty?That was sooo cruel of him.He behaved badly and he deserves to rot in jail.He is an animal.

Answer #5

I am so sorry that happened to you. dont dont dont feel guilty!!! It was not your fault, he betrayed you and your love and trust, he deserves to go to jail. If you hadnt have done that he could still be beating you and raping you and even get you pregnant! You have to understand what you did was the right thing to do.

Answer #6

Hun, you should not feel guilty. He deserved what he got. I am so sorry for what happened to you. Just know it isn’t your fault. If he did something like this to you he wasn’t in love with you. You deserve someone way better

Answer #7

That was very wrong of him and you should feel no guilt .. He obviously did it for a reason , but you shouldn’t feel guilt for someone who has hurt and made you feel uncomfortable !

-Hope I helped :]

Answer #8

I am not going to say sorry. It doesn’t change anything. I can only imagine how you feel. Like maybe there is a stain there that will never be washed off. But all you can do is put yourself in a place where you can keep living. If you shut off your own mind with that feeling of desperation, when you want to turn it back on you will only feel more haggard. Even though it hurts. Be at peace with yourself. That is the only way you can ever feel better. It’s not about him at all. He is responsible for himself and you are for yourself. Just take care.

Answer #9

sorry to hear that I really am but don’t feel guilty at all he did a unexplainable crime towards you and it’s only fair that he is in prison for it and if you love him still that’s understandable but what he did is not

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