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I feel horrible...

So I’m LDS (as you can tell from all my other questions and stuff) and I’m not allowed to date until I’m 16 yadda, yadda.

This creep likes me, and long story short, my friend who was going to hang out with us bailed last minute, so we hung out at the mall. He counted it as a date, I didn’t. But now that I’ve been thinking about it, I guess it was sorta a really bad date… And I feel horrible for breaking the church rules! (not to mention my mom’s!) :(

I want to tell my mom, and her to tell me it’s alright and everything, but I dunno what to tell her without getting her upset.

Also, there’s a rumor going around school that we’re boyfriend, girlfriend (Which we;re sure as heck NOT!) and I just want it all to STOP!!! Help?

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Answer #1

It wasn’t your fault the other party bailed out on you the last minute. It wasn’t intended to be a date. One person has to ask the other person out and it should be a casual friendship. I would get a second opinion from your mother. If you weren’t doing anything romantic to break the church rules you should be fine. I’m LDS too, and 23 years old at that. If you and this guy are supposed to be friends, I wouldn’t call that breaking church rules. I’m sure your mother isn’t going to scold you for being alone with him. Don’t feel guilty about it, it wasn’t your fault this had to happen. I’m sure it was a mistake. And in order for someone to ask you out, you have to make the choice to reject the offer, or agree. But, since this was supposed to be a group of you hanging out at the mall, that’s botched. I’m sure it felt scary to be alone with this guy and I wouldn’t blame you for that. If you didn’t break the Law of Chastity, you’re fine. I don’t know what to tell you about stopping the rumors in school, but, you could go to the office if things get out of hand. That might get people to stop. Speak with your mother and your Bishop about it to get their opinions. But, in my opinion coming from another LDS sister, I’d say it’s not your fault and you didn’t break the rules of the church. Good luck and hope this can be squared away.

Answer #2

rawr not that big a deal I have done thing with boys that will blow your mind just go to confession seek profesionsal help[like me] clear the rumers and go on living it waas just hanging out with a boy dont worry

Answer #3

I wouldn’t count it as a date because you didn’t agree 2 spend time alone with him. 4 it to be a date, one has 2 ask the other out and the other has to agree. 2 friends, a girl and a guy, can hang out and it can still NOT be a date. did anything “romance-oriented” happen? I think you shud tell yur mom and ask her opinion, she will most-likely tell you the same. it wasn’t yur fault and everyone else left you guys.

take it easy, girlie:).

Answer #4

Just be honest - the other party bailed - it was not intended or set up to be a date, you’re fine.

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