How can I stop fighting with my mom?!

omg! I have the same problem but im 13 and my da died 2 years ago and my mom didnt take any time to heal she just started dating again like a month after so when you get some help let me know what to do!

Dear bballstar225, It takes two to argue…shame on your mother for entertaining an argument. I teach teens how to get what they want and it begins with attitude. Unfortunately adults aren’t always right but they rule. So it really depends on what you are arguing about. If you argue about bedtimes, curfews, chores then you need to just do as you’re told with a smile…sounds difficult and it is but when you comply to these home rules the adults feel as though they can trust you, they can depend on you and they become more lenient. When a parent is going through a new life such as dating, new relationships, new jobs the stress on them is…well just like you…how scary is it to start dating, meeting new people etc. So for the time being bide your time do what is expected of you and smile. Sue…good luck

if you win one time, maybe she will be to scared to fight you next time. maybe try using the DDT

I am fourteen and my mum has just stop screaming at me and walked out of my room I have the same problem. all she does is scream even though shes wrong (trust me) and acts like I’m the problem of her life. she physically abuses me from time to time and I seriously hate her I cant stand being in the same room as her. good luck sorry if this wasn’t any help. from louis

Dear Darling teenager,

Fighting with your mom, well, have you ever thought about the fact that she is older, has probably done the same things you are doing and she is just trying to protect you from making the same mistakes she did. Mom’s do usually know more, because they have been around a lot longer than teenagers. If you want your mom to understand you and you are truely not doing anything that would endanger yourself or others, sit down and talk to her, let her in on your life. You may be surprised how she reacts. Try to get her to make a contract with you that what ever you tell her, she is not allowed to fly off the handle and get mad. You just want her to listen and for her to let you explain the things in your life you seem to feel that she does not understand.

I was hell on two feet when i was your age and believe me, I wish I had listened to my parents more than I did. I may not have gotten my self into situations where I was raped or got strung out on booze and drugs. I thought the same way you did, they did not understand anything about me. I got pregnant at 15, and the only person that stood by me was my mom. my father blamed my mom for his “little girl” getting in to trouble. It has taken us years to learn to talk to one another and sometimes we still have fights, but it was all about them wanting to protect me from the bad ugly world. Well, i had to learn the hard way and sure it made me a stronger woman, but what would my life had been like if I had actually listened to what they had to tell me and show me.

There is a small paper back book i would recommend very highly it is called “Making Peace with Your parents”, I can’t remember the author but it helped me a lot with dealing with my mother and father. And remember mom loves you no matter what, even when she is mad at you.

I have the SAME PROBLEM!!! cept my parents are still together. but im 13 and I love my mom a lot, but we just fight over the SMALLEST things. Like, I’ll talk to her about something like what happened at school and then she’ll start asking questions and blaming EVERYTHING on me!!! It hurts me becuase I actually trusted her enough to talk about my problems and she’s flaming me for them ! And then sometimes my mom will not want me to go to a party or to go to the mall all alone with my friends, and I’ll wonder why she doesn’t trust me and believe in me anough ! I’m mature and I’m not gonna get raped, FOR FRIGGIN GOD”S SAKE! When this happends, and I think she is being unfair I go to my dad for help, so that he can back me up, and then she accuses me of undermining her and trying to split up my parents!!! GOD, she doesn’t understand anything :( I haven’t figured out a solution to this either sooo when you know just tell me!

Hi I have the same problem with my mom sept her and my dad are together but what can I do to get my moms attention bout my problems!!! sorry bout your mom.

well I ahve the same problem. im 13 and my mom is always trying to fight with me. I mean she is always getting mad. I have a lot of dram at school. I try asking for advice and stuff, what does she do? she just goes and yells saying all this stuff. im sick of how we fight! I mean I love her to death but its so annoying. any ideas?

I don’t know how to answer. I have the same problem as all y’all do. I fight withmy mom, and I know she’s just trying. When things are really bad I cry,and not speak in a long time. I try to listen to my mom, but she will just walk off frustrated, so im sorry I don’t know… just try to sit, and ask if you can talk to her. I tried that it can be emotional. It helped me though to understand more.

Im really sry but I cant give advice on this but I know exactly how it is. I am going though the same thing with my mom. My dads 70 n my moms 51 im only 15 going on 16 haveing old parents is hard enough but then i have a 28 and 17 yr old bro which is really hard to deal with even more my mom gives them so much attention n forgets about me alot of the time it really pisses me off n wat not.

I have the same problem! my way is to listen to what she says and no matter how much it may frustrate you dont interrupt. when shes done tell your side (leaving out a few details she doesnt need to know) and make sure you try to compromise sometimes! because you cant always get your way! try to do what your told (although not all the time cause that can be a pain!) at least enough to where no arguments will come up about it and every once in a while try to see things from your moms view (which can be hard but its worth it once you do). Moms arent always the most understanding but lets face it neither are we the best thing you can do is try to make her understand and try to understand her, plus itll help if you tell her a bit about your life every once in a while! and spending time together may make you closer! so try all your options and I hop I helped!

I always used to fight with my mom and still do. Sometimes it would get really bad and we wouldn’t talk to each other for a couple of days. Maybe you should start talking to your mom more, and try telling her about some of your problems. You should also start spending more time together, and enjoy it.

I fight with my mum all the time

this mom is divorcing now with 16yr old in the middle hell. we do not know all the answers I wish we did. a smile a huge, just to do chorces, not being told to, helps I promise. hang in there things will become clearer soon, trust what you feel inside you know right from wrong hug mom tell her you are thinking about what you are about to do when you leeve with your friends. gain trust we will cut the strings one day. who knows we are really learning from you :}

well.. every mom is the same. even if shes wrong. say shes right. keep your ground.. clean up after yourself.. when she talks about boys she is only trying to strike up a conversation and it end up with a fight. thats why shes so nosy. moms want to help there daughtrers. if its dumb things u argue about dont argue if she says something.. dont talk to her.. ignoring her is a good idea.. but really think about it.. does she hurt you or try to be friends but it comes out wrong cuz its a mom.. If u dont swear or fight and help her out shel love you and want a good relationship you gotta think of her as a best friend dont tell her everything but giver an inside scoop shes interested. us teens blow up like blow fish cuz we think there too nosy. but they want to help and we get defensive cuz we can show them that we can handle it on our own.she means no harm. you have one mom.. and you never know when sheldisappear, make her last years memorible not a horror story. she loves you no matter what! i hope ihelped you out. Its all up to you to keep peace. keep your calm. tell her what she wants to hear. complement her in the morning or make a cup of tea shel be nicer i promise!

im 16 and me and my mom fight all the time and when ever I say something just just comes back with some smartass remark and it pisses me off and she always thinks shes right and shes not. I have 2 brothers and they are 18 and 6 and my older brother is the smart one my younger brother is the cute one and im just a screw up that cant do nothing right. and im sorry I dont have any advise to give because im still struggling with it and it is every day we fight and she always blames me for stuff I didnt do I cant take the stress and anxoity anymore I don’t know what to do

hey Im going through the same problem and my mom has a new boyfriend too. Before you think a fight is going to start try to be patient and then ask your mom why is it you are fighting and try to solve it with a soft chat. About the boyfriend I think every kid with divorced parents has to face but if your mom is all over him try asking her and him to control and to respect your space so I respect your question and I want you to know most kids with divorce parent make this question at least once. So hang up in there. :-)