Should we have a baby if I really want to and I'm 18?

If he does not seem ready, why do it? Why pressure someone into such a huge decision when they’re not ready for it? Having a baby is a lifetime commitment.

It sounds like you need to take a step back and look at things. You really cannot be selfish when it comes to this stuff. You should not have a baby unless your partner is ready.

You also should not have a baby unless you can afford the baby. If you have a child, you should have health insurance and dental insurance. You should be finished with school. You should be able to get to the ob-gyn often. You should be taking prenatal vitamins. You should be able to afford healthy food throughout your pregnancy and for your child when he or she is growing up. You should be able to afford child care if you plan on working.

So there’s a lot involved. Most 18 year olds aren’t capable of raising a child. Even if you are ready, are finished with college, have plenty of money, great health insurance, etc., you still have to keep in mind that your partner is not ready.

If your boyfriend is not ready for it, I don’t think you should do it, as you’ll be pressuring him into it and he’ll end up resenting you for it. If you just wait the few years until he’s ready, it will be so much better for both of you. He sounds like an awesome guy. I really hope you guys end up happy.

If he is not ready, then I would wait. There is nothing worse for a baby than parents who aren’t ready for them. It’s good that you have waited this long and have a great guy. But if you have a promise ring, why not just wait until you are married? Just make sure you are stable and both of you need to be ready for such a big commitment.

I don’t think anyone should have a baby until they atleast are married and out of college. If you have a baby when your 18. What happens to colloge? I might sound mean and all about this but you have your whole life to think about.

Well im a 17 year old boy and my gf is preg( not on purpose). Well anyway me and her were planning on having on in our 20’s bc then we could actually support it. It takes a lot ot have a baby and if he’s not ready then respect his wishes. Wait and you will get a baby but right now isnt a good time to. You’ll have to work more then one job both of you and who going to take care of the baby when your at work? You have years for a chance to have a baby just wait.

wait until he is ready

I’m sure your boyfriend is a great guy and you probably have an amazing relationship. But here is the fact.. it is never too late to have a baby but it can be too early. If you truly love him and you want to be with him forever he will always be there and you guys can have kids when he is ready too. If I were you I would wait a few more years, let the relationship grow and see where life takes you. As much as you want a baby you should consider how it would change your life. At eighteen money is a big issue and if you are planning to go to college you would have to put it off for many years if you had a baby. I say wait. If you’re ment to have a baby with him then it’s going to happen when you are both ready, don’t force it now when you know that he isn’t ready and that it would put the rest of your life on hold for many years to come.

Hey hayley, I’m one from experience I got pregnate when I was 16 and not on purpose. It’s really hard taking care of her I had to drop out of high school because I had no one to take care of her. I hadno job or anything. The boyfriend ran off back to hisparents because he was not ready. Now I’m 19 finally found a decent paying job and a babysitter and am still in high school not able to even think about college because of the money. Please think and think hard and talk to your boyfriend anything can happen id say wait go to school make a life for yourself then bring in a baby. Good luck.

Hey hayley, I’m one from experience I got pregnate when I was 16 and not on purpose. It’s really hard taking care of her I had to drop out of high school because I had no one to take care of her. I hadno job or anything. The boyfriend ran off back to hisparents because he was not ready. Now I’m 19 finally found a decent paying job and a babysitter and am still in high school not able to even think about college because of the money. Please think and think hard and talk to your boyfriend anything can happen id say wait go to school make a life for yourself then bring in a baby. Good luck.