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How to tell if a 6 year relationship is dying?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 years now. He’s been my one and only boyfriend, and I his one and only girlfriend. I feel like lately our interests have been growing apart, and that he doesn’t try to learn anything about me anymore. I feel like he’s become extremely unmotivated and isn’t romantic at all. He swears he loves me to death and would do anything for me… but never keeps his promises. I’m always upset and frustrated and don’t know what to do anymore. I love him so much… but I’m just so confused. I feel like he makes no effort to do anything to fix our relationship and it hurts. I want him to try to be romantic, and act as if he’s still trying to impress me or win me over. But it doesn’t mean anything if I have to ask him to do so in the first place. I know he’s miserable without me, but our time apart still doesn’t make him motivated to try and do things on his own. Is there anything I can do to fix this? Or is my relationship completely dead?

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Answer #1

Thank you, guys. I’ve tried talking to him a few times now, and he says he wants to do special things for me, but always ends up forgetting. I would love to be spontaneous and go somewhere with him, but it’s so hard since we both have conflicting work schedules. :/ I’ll keep it in mind, though, and try to plan for a little getaway. Again… thank you so much.

Answer #2

Sit down and talk to him. Play little games that will keep you getting to know each other like 20 questions.

Answer #3

take him away on a holiday, do something unexpected … or just talk to him, sit him down and have a serious conversation with him, tell him your feelings and ask him to give you an honest reply .

there are two sides to every story… are you expecting too much from him? maybe he doesn feel like he has to do anything because he knows how much both of you guys love eachother .

maybe you need to be the first person to make the move and do something spontaneous like a holiday , so that next time he will be motivated?

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