How to talk to parents?

I think you should tell him that YOU don’t care about his race and that you really are in love with him. If your dad has a problem tell him that it isn’t really up to your boyfriend what race he is. If that doesn’t work keep your love strong and keep trying to show him that he can learn to not care about his race either. hope this helps let me know!

-shelby

I am sorry, but you indicates your birthday as “1983-07-28”. It means that you are a 25 yo young woman. How is ti possible in Baltimore that you “need” you dad’s permission to date who you want with?

I am not 25 I am 16, I messed up the date somehow and my computer froze. any way basically my dad found out that my boyfriend was 18, not 17 and he flipped out. But my dad would always say something about his race and such, so I got suspicios of the reall reason why my dad didn’t want me to see him.Well my cousin told me that my dad told her that he did’nt qant me to see him is because of his race(iranian). My dad is kinda on the racist side. So my dad basically used the age as a cover up to the real reason, race. So could some one plzzz giv me suggestions on how to go about this talk

you could go you to your dad at a random time when he is in a good mood but you should probally b alone. tell your dad everyting you like in your boyfriend, like when hes nice to you and that he shouldnt judge people by theyre race. I know its corny but it helps to write what you want to say and what your dads responses might b. you could also make a list of why you love your boyfriend.

Before any advice is given in this situation, I think it’s important that you share this “long story.” For all we know, your dad might be absolutely right to be forbidding this relationship. Love is one thing and usually a great thing, but it isn’t the ONLY thing necessary for a successful relationship. I find it had to believe that your father is preventing this from moving forward for “no reason,” as you put it. Call me cynical :)

first off YOU talk to him BY YOUR SELF tell him you love YOUR BOYFRIEND…tell him to get over the fact that he is iranian..HES JUST A PERSON LIKE YOU AND MEEH, skin color is just skin color,or heritage is just the people who made you..he cant tell you who to love…but after you talk to him bring your boyfriend in and have him sit down man to man with your dad and have HIM tell HIM how much HE loves YOU!

hope this helps -Bri