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How to stop my mom from going through my stuff

My mom hates my boyfriend and as soon as I get off the computer she some how goes and looks at all my activity and everything I was just on… Today I got on my profile and she has like a master key word that works for everything on the computer and left a comment for me using my name and was telling me how much she dosent like my boyfriend and telling me to leave him… How do I get her to stop

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Answer #1

Communication is the key to this issue. First of all why doesn’t your mom like your boyfriend. You don’t have to answer this to me, but is it a valid reason, like does he use drugs. not in school, or working, I don’t know your age, but I’m calculating you are underage, because of the fact she goes through your stuff.

Sorry to tell you that as long as you are at home she has that right. But on the other hand if you talk to her in a calm matter, and find out what exactly is she looking for or is there a trust issue only you know. But over all try to understand that moms usually want the best for you kids it’s just a matter of communicating with each other so that everything gets put out on the table to talk about.

Yes, I’m a mother of 5 grown kids and I did my partial snooping, but I also addressed the things that bothered me with my kids and they taught me a lot as far as to what they were doing, sometimes it was just my wild imagination taking over and making me see things that were not really all that bad. Other times things were really bad and sometimes they were caught on time. Don’t let a boyfriend be the cause of a emotional separation between the both of you.

Especially not the computer. Well good luck to you, hope some of this helps.

Answer #2

well your parents cannot tell you who you can date really they cant pick your friends or boyfriend and just talk to her and let her know that cause she needs to know now before you turn 18 or else she will do it your whole life well gtg the school bell just rang…

Answer #3

Ok, yes your mother is worried and all mothers worry, but to all the mothers out there - if communication is the key, why didnt her mother communicate instead of leaving her a message on her private profile?

I dont have the answer to this question, for some reason my mother thought it was acceptable to read my diary (I was 12 and a good kid, so I have no idea what she thought she’d find in there)… I guess the only thing I can say is dont do anything she wouldnt want you to and it doesnt matter what she sees then (you could also just delete browsing history…)

Answer #4

I do the same thing with my kids… when you get our age you will see it is actually love. I was the victim of a violent crime that man is serving 350 years…it can happen at a moments notice. Teenage boys are dangerous as they lie to get what they want…then forget when someone gets pregnant. Go hug your mom tell her you love her and that there is nothing to worry about but you understand. One day you will feel the same as we do. One day you will wish your mom was there to snoop one one time and protect you, I lost my mother to cancer, I disowned her for 17 years and I still cannot forget that …

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