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How to be accepted by your parents?

Okay so heres the deal, my mom doesnt accept me from who I am but my dad does,he doesnt really care.Last week my mom called me ‘Emo’!!..she’s always making smart comments about the music I listen to and the way that I dress.Its like she’s ashamed of me or something.When she is on the phone with an family member she would talk about me while im actually there.she would talk about how im trying to be something that im not.It really hurts me because I never knew she was like that! How do I get her to accept me?? Without changing me..because I dont wanna be this big fake just to make her happy.

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Answer #1

First Take a Deep Breath!!!

You cant make your mom accept you at all, but what you can do is to just continue to be yourself. Your mom sounds ashamed because the actual image of who you have become is not what she thought you would be. So it may take a while for her to understand. But what you can do is to tell her that she is disrespecting you and that she would not like it if your roles were turned.

You also have access to your family and that means that they can make their own judgement (which doesn’t mean you have to listen) about you. But be forward with your mother and try to let her know that you still love her the same no matter what happens, it may be a few years before you two get it together but keep open channels and continue to let her know how you feel; even if you don’t get the response you want continue to be consistent

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Answer #2

Well… let her be, she will get use to who you are. You are you, and as long as you know who you are then there should be no hard feelings. Let her talk, atleast you have your dad on your side.

Answer #3

you can’t really make her accept you. . She sounds a little childish. I would just advise you to be who and what makes you feel good bugger what everyone else says. I’m goth and people call me emo. I don’t care I just flip em off. Douche bags need to learn a few things. . .

Answer #4

welcome to growing up.sounds like your yunger.im 40. I too have found out what your finding out now.it maybe hard to do but dont let the happiness that your mom lacks in yourself.subtract from your quality of life.seems like some parents (people)are never happy with their children if your not accepted now you are not the problem,move on

Answer #5

Write it out. Go to your room, pour your most raw feelings onto a sheet of notebook paper. Heck, cry while your doing it if you feel like crying. Curse while your doing it, if you feel like cursing. Get everything you feel onto that paper. Write it neatly and organized. Then, go to her when she is doing something like watching T V or painting her nails. Just hand her the paper, then leave the room and go get on the computer or watch TV in another room. Let her read it. Seeing it in black in white, she might realize how she’s making you feel. It works for me. Best of luck, hun!

Answer #6

thanks guys..!!!

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