How do you let go of all the worries when it comes to sex?

It is perfectly normal to be scared or nervous. Contracting a disease is a very good thing to be concerned with. Sometimes you get lucky and if you catch something it can be easily fixed but othertimes you get things that dont go away. If you partner has been tested but you’re still uncomfortable then ask him to use a condom. If he loves you too he will respect you and understand your need for that extra reassurance right now.

Pregnancy is another valid concern. When you make the decision to have sex make sure you realize you are making the decision to possibly be a mother because things dont always go as planned. Make sure you’re on birth control or make good use of that condom. Dont rely on “pulling out” or any of those other silly myths. (My best friend from high school now has 2 kids because of her belief in pulling out so that shows you how effective that method is)

Emotionally, if you honestly feel you love your partner and if that love is reciprocated then this part should be easy.But remember love is not only an emotion, it is a commitment. You are saying you want to be with this person no matter how cranky they are in the morning or how bad their feet stink at night :) Its about companionship.

Trust is a key factor as well. As a woman sex changes things for us whether we want it too or not. You may begin feeling jealous or insecure in your relationship so make sure you talk openly with your partner. Honesty is key when you are giving up something as precious as your womanhood.

As far as it being painful, take your time, go slow, DONT RUSH. If you love this person then you have as long as the rest of your life to have sex with him so go easy because rushing will just make you nervous and tense, making it much more difficult to ahem “proceed”.

Just remember, you cant get your virginity back so take your time and enjoy yourself. Make sure he’s special and you’ll feel right in your decision.

I hope I was a little bit helpful and good luck!