how do I tell him I don't want an abortion?

‘ He feels we should have an abortion’

uhm no, there’s no we here. Your body. Your choice.

Now, I am entirely pro-choice. This does not come from a place of anti-abortion. This is your decision. If he leaves because of this, perhaps you dont want to be with him anyways. Think about it. Do you really want a guy this controlling to be the father of your children? If he leaves because of this, maybe you’re better off. If he treats you badly because of it, perhaps you need to leave him. Just because he is older, does not mean he knows what he is talking about and thus should control your life. He’s your boyfriend, not your father. You need to do what is best for you. You’re so young. You can always find another guy. Yes, you can always have children later too. But dont do this based on not losing some guy.

Talk to him as soon as you can. This is your choice and you are going to have to be the one to carry the majority of the impact of this decision.

Do not step into that abortion clinic UNLESS you are 100% sure that that is what YOU WOULD do.

OMG DO NOT LET HIM CONTROL YOU!!! YOU KNOW you WILL LIVE EVERY DAY OF YOU LIFE KNOWING THAT YOU KILLED A BABY!!! JUST KEEP IT THE LEAST YOU CAN DO IS GIVE IT UP FOR ADOPTION DONT END THE BABIES LIFE JUST CAUSE HE don’t WANT KIDS UNTILL you ESTABLISH A CAREER!!

basically, all you have to do is let him know that since it’s your body and your an adult you get to decide whether or not you want to keep the baby. then you tell him you’ve decided to keep the baby, and that that is what you feel is right.

if he leaves you over the fact that you have chosen to have a baby, then I think that’s his own issue and he will need to get over it eventually.

This is a huge thing to think about. DO WHAT you WANT! my friend had an abortion and she is 14. make sure you do what you want. MY friend is now so depressed she is on suicide watch at a hospital! Not to scare you!

Good luck :)

Don’t do it unless it’s something you want to do. If he will leave over this then he is not the man for you. If he was truly concerned about you not having children then he shoulder have taken more care to not get you pregnant and worn a condom.

His reasoning is totally weak. There are women all over these days that have babies AND finish college AND have careers. I am a single mother (divorced when my child was 1 yr old) and have had no help from the father. I do it all. I work fulltime and take care of my child. Is it easy? No. Is it the most rewarding thing I have ever done? Yes.

I too am pro-choice. That doesn’t mean I’m a psycho-fanatic saying YAY ABORTION! It means that I support every woman’s right to make that choice for herself because ultimately, in the end…it is only her that really has to live with whatever decision that she makes.

Considering the age difference here he could be the type that will want to trade you in for a newer (younger) model in a few years. If he cannot stand by you in a tough decision like this then he will not stand by you on the little stuff in life either. Maybe he’s just afraid he’ll have more responsibility and/or have to pay child support (which he should…you didn’t make that baby by yourself!)

If a high school kid can have a baby and still graduate high school then there is no sense in trying to say that you cannot do it with college. There are online courses that you can take these days to supplement for when you would be out of class to give birth and the months that follow. Most colleges have on campus apartments for families and single mothers and daycare programs as well as assistance for single mothers and families. You can get grants and loans as a single mother to help pay for schooling as well. You can get on the WIC program that will help with food during pregnancy and after, Food stamps, childcare assistance, and all sorts of other programs.

These programs were intended for people like you who need a little help as they try to do the right thing.

From the tone of your voice and your doubt about having it done I’d say you don’t want to have this abortion. They may not even grant you one if you go in with doubts. So just sit him down and talk to him. Tell him that it isn’t a choice you are comfortable with and that there are options out there to assist you in school and career. Tell him that he can either support your decision or not but it is your decision and you have made up your mind.

Trust me when I tell you, no man’s approval or acceptance or love can EVER compare to the love of a child for it’s mother and vice versa. Once you look into that little face you will know what I mean.