My boyfriend wants to abort, but do I?

I’m 13 years old and I just found out two days ago that I’m pregnant. I’ve already accepted responsibility for this, because it was my boyfriend’s and my fault completely. We weren’t as careful as we should have been. We’ve only been together 2 months, and he just turned 17 on april 5th. He had an abortion with his last girlfriend, and now he wants me to make the same decision. I know it’s my choice and they won’t do anything without my consent, but I don’t want to let him, or our baby down. It’s hard to figure out what I feel about the situation when I’m so focused on everyone else (I.e, my parents, my boyfriend, his parents.)

I personally don’t think I’d be able to make the decision to end a life because I made a stupid decision.

But is it the right decision?

Any opinions are welcome. Thanks.

Answer #1

HOW SAD AND ONLY 13 ..TALK TO your PARENTS HUN

Answer #2

ohh you poor thing, I’m in the exact same boat hun, except my boyfriend is 15 and refuses to leave me but he is nowhere near the maturity for a baby.

the thing that your boyfriend will NEVER understand is that.. there is an emotional connection between you and this baby in your belly. its a part of you and nothing can really break that bond.

you have to do the right thing for your baby? can you financially and emotionally support it? what about your education?

good luck xo.

Answer #3

It is your choice, your child, you chose, I would consider an open adoption, never abortion, but thats me

Answer #4

I wouldnt abort the baby in the end you will regret it and once you have the child you will love him or her so much and be glad that you didnt

things will have to get worse before they get better considering you and your boyfriend being together for such short of time he may not always be there but all men/boys are diff.

when you make your decision make sure its for you not what someone else told you to do

good luck

Answer #5

You have to listen to your own heart - what are you telling yourself to do? Ignore everyone else’s opinion, and depend on your own instinct - it won’t lead you wrong.

In the end, it’s your body, and it’s your baby, and nobody else has any right to tell you what you should or shouldn’t do.

Your boyfriend seems like he’s nowhere near mature enough to deal with a baby, but that doesn’t mean you can’t handle it. Just make sure that whatever choice you make that it’s your choice - not someone else’s.

Answer #6

just think about it;

are you ready for a baby? what will you do about school? is the time right? and the big question is do you wont a baby now?

Answer #7

He had an abortion with his last girlfriend, and now he wants me to make the same decision.

I’d be more concerned about your parents filing statutory-rape charges against him.

Answer #8

I would consider bringing teh baby to term and then, if you can’t care for it and no-body in your family can help, you can put it up for adoption. You’re really brave to face this the way you are! Happy Easter!

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