How Do I talk to my dad who hasn't talked to me in a year?

Today my dad called me when he has not spoke to me for a year. I had truly believed he doesn’t love me anymore and hates me and wants nothing to do with me. I am 15 and he has not been there for me for a long time. I didn’t pick up the phone because I was scared, angry, and confused. Why does he suddenly want to talk to me? What do I even say to someone who abandoned me for that long?

Answer #1

I know it’s pretty hard to talk to people who you thought loved you then they suddenly go away for a long time. But does your dad have a reason why he disappeared? If he has a reasonable answer why? If he does then why be angry at him? But if he doesn’t then ask him, where has he been for the past year? Where has he been when you needed him most? Tell him it tore you apart thinking he didn’t love or want you anymore. If he says he loves you then he obviusly does he’s just one of those parents that show it in a different way, or simply because he’s indenial. He probably thinks he hasn’t done anything wrong, when clearly he has, I mean he hurt you no? Then bloody tell him he did! If he thinks he hasn’t, then force him to relise what he has done, kick some sence into him! I know what it’s like to be abandoned by your parent my mum left me this year, I have been with her for 16 years until now, she makes me feel like she only used me because she was lonely and just wanted my company, when she had found a boyfriend who isn’nt good for her mean he’s 42 and she’s 54! WTF! He’s immature and grows drugs, even though my mum has always been against drugs! She now lives in a caravan, has empty pockets because of this loser spending her money, and making her buy him a brand new car, she always had money before him! She’s $30,000 in debt on three credit cards! lives 10 hours away from me in the country, because he LOVES the country >: | She abandoned me and dropped me on my dad whom I have never lived with before and don’t get along with him as much as I did with my mum, so I am now always depressed and feel emotionally lonely and cant talk to noone anymore and don’t trust anyone with how I feel. BECAUSE OF HER. I hate her, but god do I miss her so much, I think about her every day, sometimes have a little cry because of what she did to me, she even let him talk to me like shit, she didn’t care, even when I told her he tried to get with me before he met her! She didn’t believe me, just like everyone else. Anyway I wish you all the luck with your dad, I hope he doesn’t turn out like my mum, my mum aswell suddenly wants me back after a long period of time, but I’m affriad she’ll push me away again… As much as I want her back :’( goodluck.

Answer #2

Well I would be completely honest with him about how you feel. If he ends up being an ass to you, get angry and tell him how you feel.

Answer #3

Thanks Alex.. but that isn’t exactly helpful.. It isn’t as easy as that.. talkling to someone you have not seen in over a year and not talked to in a year..

Answer #4

If you haven’t already spoken to him, I think you should call him & start off by saying hi dad, how are you? You know it’s been a quite a while since I’ve last spoken to you.. what have you been doing? …Just see what’s up with him & see what he has to say about it. He’ll most likely come out first and explain to you why he hasn’t spoken to you in a year so you won’t have to do much talking. Let me know what happens!

Answer #5

Talk to him about you and himself, then ask him if he hates you, Then it will be great!

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