How do I help my mum?

I think my mum’s on her way to a mental breakdown… My parents recently separated last fall after 20 years of an abusive relationship. My dad hasn’t kept in contact but he’s got lawyers fighting my mum for everything we own… he’s spread false rumours about my mum, and she’s been questioned about it.

Yesterday my mum had to bring my younger brother to a doctor’s appointment… she came home more depressed than usual. She won’t talk to me, she’s been crying since the appointment and hasn’t eaten anything. My brother is fine – he does have severe ADHD, and so I think the doctor told my mum she isn’t being a very good mum or something along that line… (our doctor is very straight-forward)

I try my absolute hardest to help out in the family as I can… I’ve been sick for the past week (kidney stones), that I haven’t been able to do as much around the house like normal. Today is the first day I’m able to move without too much pain holding me back. But my mum’s locked herself in her room.

I really don’t know what I can do to help my mum… I’m so scared for her, and I’m trying to be as supportive to her as I can… is there something else I can be doing?? Please help.. :-(

Answer #1

you can start with a hug… hugs help a lot even when you don’t know what to say.

Just continue to be encouraging and help out when you can. Just let her know you are there for her, and that you will do anything she needs.

Answer #2

maybe she could try getting therapy or somethin. I don’t know this is a really hard one.

Sorry I can’t much. Good luck!!!

Answer #3

okay heres the thing make her feel as good as any girl should tell her if she dosent eat she may die and she cant die when she has two sons who need her. buy her a present if you cant aford to buy her a present make here one even if you think your to old to just do it. if she knows you took the time to make somthing for her she ows you her time. tell her how you feel about her if she know s how much you care about her she will know shes apriciated.

Answer #4

When a family member experiences depression, you can help the person seek appropriate care, develop coping skills and create a low-stress environment. You can offer emotional support and compassion. And you can learn to take care of yourself and manage the impact of the disorder on your own life: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/depression/MH00016

I hope things are better real soon, you’ll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Answer #5

… I am really sorry for you, be there 4 her … you also have to relax

if shes still locked up , go up to her be relaxed and talk to her, be like , tell her how you feel dont shout ! be calm tell her yur der 4 her tell her you love her & yu wanna help … tel her she dont deserve all this , she can beat your dad she must give up , tell her you believe and her , hug her & kiss her if you can .. make her feel special !!

good luck & get bk to me see how it goes ,

Answer #6

get back 2 me

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