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How can you tell if your kid is getting high?

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Hi- I joined this site 'because I'd like advice from teenagers on this subject. -- My son is almost 15, just entering 10th grade. Shy kid, smart and quiet.. was getting good grades until last year, but did straighten up his act after he got in big trouble for his first report card - ended up getting at least a C average (was always on honor role in jr high), so he passed. Lately, he's been hanging out, skateboarding all around town- gone for hours at a time. He has these friends that all look like stoners- long hair, always wearing black clothers - I try not to judge a book by its cover, but when I was a kid all the kids that LOOKED like stoners WERE stoners! A couple days ago he went out to buy some school clothes and they were all black tshirts with skulls and stuff- InsaneClownPosse, LambofGod, etc- you get the picture. What is ironic is that when I was his age I was a hardcore punk and was into Black Flag, CircleJerks, etc and yes I did get high and drunk whatever - I know I turned out OK, but it'd kill me if my son was doing the same thing. Our circumstances are much different-- I grew up with an alcoholic mother that really didn't care, my husand and I have worked hard to provide my son with a comfortable, stable 2 parent household and we really do care. --- So what do you think? - What are teenagers like these day, lol? Should I be concerned just because of a few tshirts, or what? -- And, if your parents gave you a drug test, what would you think? And if we do and it's positive, what is the best approach then? Be honest- please! Thanks!