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How can I tell someone that I was molested as a child?

When I was between 7-10 or so I was sexually molested by my older cousin who is 3 years older than me I haven seen or talked to him since he left so e years ago…he came to live with my family because his parents were having major law issues and whenever I would be uus us he would force me to do stuff to him…I don’t want anyone knowing because 1: I think it would embarrising to have people know about it 2: I do t wan people to pity me for it…I have recently been doin very bad in school because I can’t get it off my mind and all I wanna do is forget about it but I have tried for 5 years and it still seems like yesterday and I’m scared if I tell my mom now she will think it’s an excuse because I’m doing bad…what should I do?

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Answer #1

First thing too say is that im sorry that happened./it certinly happened to me,.but the person I first told was older sister but it took 3 months to tell somebody.,at that time I only had my dad and if I was to tell him what happened I was scared that he would of yelled at me for not telling him when it happened,.I should of because now ,they cant do nothing to him because hes in mexico:(,.I would tell someone your comforble with or if you may ,.tell someone to tell your parent for you if your scared or something.,trust me they cant yell at you,.that would be just messed up,.what you went through was tough and your parent should respect that.,after my dad found out though what happened to me he cried.I felt bad but I told him not to cry that im here now and im not going no where,.my dad is now best friend and I can trust him with anything now,.pretty soon ima get to trust him with having a boyfriend lol./but make sure you let your parent know soon.before it comes to a point when no one can do anything to that person anymore.good luck and I hope your parent understands.

Answer #2

Yhe thing is Ima guy so it’s weirder

Answer #3

You may want to tell your mother. She wouldn’t think it is because you are doing bad in school. If you are always honest w/her, which I hope you are, then you’r mother should be the first to believe anything you say about situations like that. That is not something to take lightly. What if you found out that he did that to another girl? Another LITTLE girl. If you don’t do something about it now, then he may grow up to do that to other girls/women. Don’t be ashamed. It happens more than you think. –>if you would like further advice w/out everyone else reading. just message me hun. I am sure I can deff. help.

& I wouldn’t advise you to tell EVERY guy you date. Just because it is something that every guy you date has to know. That is something personal. The only time I think you need to tell anyone other than the people who abs. need to know. Is your husband one day.

Answer #4

I was molested by my uncle and brother when I was between the ages 7 and 9 and I didnt tell my mom until I was 14 so I was scared about telling her too. I didnt want people to know it happened to me either because of the same reasons but after you tell her you will feel better and she would probably say why didnt you tell her sooner. and even after I told her it never went away until last year I realized that I wasnt going to let it put me down anymore and hurt me anymore. so now every guy I date I have to tell them or it will feel like im hiding it from them. now it doesnt bug me anymore.

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