This is quite a big story, so please can someone read it and give me some advice!
Basically, me and my boyfriend have been on and off, but mainly together for about a 1 year and 4 months. At first, my parents loved him, and his family and my family all got on. But, my boyfriend cheated on me 10 months in, and it was horrible for quite a few months, but we have sorted everything out, and are fine and back on track. The other day, I lied to my parents about going to his house, because they say I can't go to his house and he cant come to mine like we used to. I put up with it for ages, but then I thought it was unfair so I lied. And I know that was wrong of me. Anyway, when we went, we ended up having sex for the first time. It was safe sex etc, and we both wanted to do it. It wasn't until a few days later that my parents found out by going through all my chat logs on msn, and going through all my texts in my phone, that they found out. So fair enough, I should of been in trouble and been grouned. But they made it so much worse. They took my to the doctor about the morning after pill, and humiliated me and now say im pregnant even though the pharmacist said its highly unlikley, they took my too a crisis centre trying to convince me that im being mentally abused by my boyfriend! Then my dad went crazy and called up my boyfriend, and had a massive go at him. So now his parents are involved, and have been having arguments with my family over the fact my dad wants to report this to the police. Its horrible, because my boyfriends family told me they aren't angry at me, and I have always been welcome, and they think a lot of me etc. But my dad is making out something very different. What do I do? I dont want my boyfriend and me to break up, and he doesnt or his family. Both families are mean't to be sitting round talking about it, but I can't say what I really think because parents have said if I turn it round on them they will pack my bags and I will be gone. It is really sad, because me and my mum used to be so close, but its like my dad is trying to cause problems for me. I dont know what to do! Should I speak to my boyfriends parents about this on my own? Pleaseee give me some advice.
hey well im bit odler now with young kids of my oiwn and have been their done that got the t shirt bla bla bla! you should seen my mums face when I actually was preg ha well nyway hun sorry your havign such a hard time I know you feel like you can do right for doing wrong , but if I was you id sit your parents down and have a real heart to heart tell them you lvoe them but they have to respect your choices and that you are growing up its your life and yes we all make mistakes allong the way but only time will tell and if it was a mistake then you will learn from it and deal with it liek an adult. Burt you have to elarn from your own kistakes and if they cant be supportive lovign apretns and understand that the moe tehy tel you not to do something the more you will do it than they will push you away! they are probably hurting as you lied to them which you have admitted you was wrong for doing but whats doen is done now all you can do is focus on the future and try to put this behind you, tell them if they was more udnerstanding and didnt react liek this (spesh your dad) than you would have a more trust worthy and honest relationship with him, ok so you lvoe all of them involved and soemthigns got to give so you need to explain this to your parents in a mature way or maybe write a letter. Can you not saty anywhere at the mintue till your parents have cooled down but not your boyfriends as this will get their back up more , hope it all calms down soon and good luck keep us informed alwyas ehe if want to chat xxx
OK WELL before you DO SOMETHING you REGERT .. JUST SIT your PARENTS DOWN TELL THEM THAT you LOVE HIM MORE THAN THEY know YOU GUYS GOT PASTED the cheating && tell them also how you feel you have to act like the parent && them watz going on they makeing it bigger its not like your pre go... lol... they should b happy for that . well & {+} plus you know what right && wrong .. because .. you know you love him & he loves you hopefully ..&& I dont think he will bereak up wit u .. I think you should sit down everyone && be like we love eachother :) this reminds me of[[ remeo &juliet ]]
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You don't say how old you both are but if your Dad wants to report it to the police there is the chance that due to your age your boyfriend could be in real legal problems (statutory rape). If the age is an issue then legally a person can be convicted as a sex offender for life even though the other person consented. Look it up for your state.
Keep in mind that you may have worked out the cheating with him but all your parents see when they look at him is a boy who already broke your heart once in the worst way possible and may do it again. It is going to take more time for him to prove himself to them because they don't love him like you do. They want only the best for you and at this point he hasn't proven to them that is him.
thankyou for all your answers, but I ended up being made to break up with him :( and he thinks that I did it because I wanted to. and I really didnt. we are in the same friends, and I love him so much. I want to just tell him that it isnt me who wanted to do this, but they take my phone away from me. :( I now have a whole other issue and problem. this is such a nightmare... what to do now...
and to 'ponypal' im 16 next month and he is 16. :/
thank you for all your comments, but I was made to break up with him. I had to act like I wanted to do it, so now it seems like I randomly broke up with him for no reason :( what do I do now. I still love him!
and to ponypal, I am 16 in june, and he is 16 already.
