How can I cope with this stress?

I have a similar situation as the lady with a 23 yr old daughter still at home. My daughter is in her 20’s, BUT she has a young child. Only income she has is a small amount of child support. She contributes nothing to expenses; how can she? How could I take anything from them: I can’t. But I am bone weary of having such a crowded home; we have 3 other kids to think about. Only she and her older brother are grown. I also DO NOT want to see my grandchild in daycare!! Meanwhile I am having health problems, and I do wish she had a safe, decent place to live. But at the rate shes going, she’ll be here till shes 30, or maybe beyond. Sometimes I resent her, but that gets all of us nowhere.

I’m not sure why I’m even writing this; nothing can be done. I couldn’t live with myself to send her away. They have nowhere to go. Heck, I feel guilty even thinking this. :(

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Answer #1

Don’t what your doughter is doing is wrong, I know she is your doughter and that you love her very much but really she needs to get going. Latter on she thinks life is going to be as easy as going to you when she has a problem and she wont learn the fact that she has to be indipendent and be what she is an adult. You nees to take a sit whit her and talk to her siriusly and let her know what is going on. Also you need to ut force into this. let her know that she needs to work that you want her to move out, but not because you don’t love her, but because you do and that you want the best for her. I’m not traying to be mean or anthing, I’m just telling how I feel about this, I’m just 13 so meaby you wont take my advice, but I mean I don’t have perents as caring as you and I could not turn to them oif this happened to me, but your doughter did make a mistake and we all have to learn from them. From a mistike a wiser pearson grows. But you don’t need to feel guilty she is an adult and she needs to start a road by herself too.

GOOD LUCK:)

Answer #2

I know this is going to put a burden on your already precious time, but consider going to counseling. There are places that will do it for very little and are flexible with their hours (like training universities etc). We have a few mothers who come to our clinic with the same problem as the one you have. Sometimes it is just a place to unload. Sometimes it is a place to help you find solutions you never thought about. Sometimes it’s to help you just cope with the stress of it all. Think about it…

Answer #3

hi its good to get your feelings out sometimes instead of keeping them all inside donot envy you at all hope everything works out x

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