How can I cope with the loss of my stepdad?

Balannac, I just want to say I am sorry for your loss and feel for you very much. I just lost my father 3 years ago. It was very devastating. I was there as you watching him pass in the hospital room and also watching them do CPR on him, it was strange since I was always afraid of death, but when my Father was dying, I had the strengh of the love I had for him since he saw me thru all of my scary times in life to stay with him in his hour of need. I love him dearly, and can only say look at the life which you had with him and hold on to that, that will help get you thru all of this. It will take time to adjust, I am still adjusting to my mother being alone. I know your step father would want you and your mother to get very close now and be very kind and helpful towards each other. Though he is gone, You will go thru the denial that he is gone anger and sadness or depression, and then one day you will accept the fact he is not here in body, BUT THE SPIRIT AND HIS MEMORIES WILL ALWAYS LIVE ON IN YOU AND THE FAMILY. TALK ABOUT HIM AND YOU WILL FEEL BETTER EITHER TO YOUR MOM OR A THERAPIST. HE MUST HAVE BEEN A GREAT MAN IF YOU ARE HURTING SO BADLY, BUT I PROMISE YOU YOU WILL FEEL BETTER IN THE FUTURE. IT WON’T BE A WEEK OR TWO, IT’S GOING TO TAKE TIME. HANG IN THERE LOVE FOR HIM AND YOUR MOM WILL HELP YOU HEAL, AND SECOND KEEP YOURSELF BUSY WITH OUTSIDE FRIENDS AND FUN EVEN IF YOU DON’T FEEL UP TO IT FORCE YOURSELF TO GO AND YOU WILL COPE BETTER BY DOING THIS. TAKE CARE, AND IF YOU EVER WANT TO TALK E-MAIL ME! GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR MOM : )