I think my Dad hates me

my dad hates to read too!!! sorry and I do pray and I know how

So he won’t talk to you and there’s no way of letting him know that all you want to do is spend some time with him? If he doesn’t want to listen, maybe he’ll read instead. Why don’t you try writing him a letter explaining what it is that you’d like to do and how it makes you feel when he pushes you away. Tell him how happy you’d be if he’d spend some time with you doing something that both of you enjoy. Tell him that there’s no pressure and that you’ll wait until he’s ready to open up to you. It would be nice if he could give you a sign once he’s ready. It seems to me that he’s troubled by something that’s blinding him from what’s important- you. It’s worth a shot. Good luck and keep me posted!

Yeah, there’s another problem with writing. It’s one-sided and if he is ignoring you now, think how it would be if you wrote to him. He’s probably not going to talk to you about what you said. So, you won’t know anymore than you did before. Only now, you have more questions than before.

If he doesn’t care for reading, maybe it would be good to keep a journal, if you don’t already. Buy a cute notebook or diary and put your thoughts down. You’d be amazed at how much better you will feel, just to get it out and you will have it later on in life to reflect the good times and the bad. . I’m 54 and I would love to have the diaries that I kept. My father was not there for me. He was never at home, always working, making that money. We were rich alright but not with love.

My Dad never said ‘I love you’. When he was dying, he let me know in his own way but he never said the words. I think it’s much harder on men to have conversations, especially with their daughters, maybe because of how their Dad treated them, don’t know.

Simply a Rose to brighten your day,         And maybe lessen the cares in your way;         And also, too, to help you to know,         That in knowing you, many others grow!

  Lela’s advice is good.

Your father may be “afraid” of you. You are growing up and he just may not know how to deal with you or relate to you so he ignores you or “pushes you away”.

Try Lela’s suggestion to write him a letter. Explain to him how much you love him and want to have a father-daughter relationship. Tell him what some of your goals and desires are. Let him in to your life and maybe he will let you in to his.

I am sooo sorry this is happening to you… and I empathize, greatly, Your dad is missing out on the best relationship he can ever have, this side of heaven… and is totally oblivious to it… I know this has to be very painful for you, as all children, need their parents, love, and attention. I agree with the writing, that was listed above, and I would take it one step farther… as a Christian, I would pray.

Not sure where you stand on that issue, but, anyone can pray. And if you will do that, I believe that God will find a way of opening your dads eyes, so that he can see what he is missing.

Would you be willing to pray for him?

There is no right or wrong way to pray, just talk to God, as if he were the best friend you ever had, or ever will have. If you need help getting started, you can make a prayer journal. Writing out your prayers, and thoughts, sending them to God. He will hear. And remember, before you start, that he does not always answer prayers in our timeing, or even in the way we think, but, we have to trust him, no matter what happens, that he has heard, that he cares, and that he has a plan. It may take time, to put this plan into action, and he will never go against anyones, will, he has to work, to bring understanding to someone that is not listening.

If you want to funmail me, I usually post in the religion area.

Also, here are some places where I post prayer requests, if you would like some help in praying for your dad:

wjcr.org click on prayer

dailyguidepost.org “ “

frangipane.org

godswork.org

Or if you funmail me, I will be very glad to pray with you…

God bless…

I just read a poem that someone wrote and posted. I think you might can relate to her. It’s not exactly the same as your situation. In the poem, her Dad left home, but in a big way, you Dad is not home either, not in spirit. I just thought you might want to read it. =^u^= kat

Feedback on Poem about my Father.

by ohsocrazy

Why? The anger in my body running through like an infection how could you leave your daughter with no father for protection? Almost every single day gets harder than the last knowing that our issues will continue, unsurpassed. And though you may think its okay to leave your kids behind I just cant seem to understand how you could be so blind. Now that your nothing but a thought an unclear, dim envision, I hope you know you walked away and stuck to your decision. You don’t deserve a simple hug or even a goodbye, the only thing I need to know is why daddy, why?

I wish I had the answer. It seems like he may have a drinking problem, but even more than that. As a father, he should know how important it is to pay attention to his children and, yet, he, apparently, doesn’t. He must have some deep-seeded problems, maybe from his past but that is no excuse. If you have already talked to him and he still won’t spend time with you, I’m sorry but I don’t know the answer. I bet he will regret not spending time with you later on when you are all grown up and have your own family. You may not have the time to spend with him when he gets old & has Cirrhosis and needs you. Ironically, that’s how life goes. . .I do know that much. I hope he wakes up before then.