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I hate my dad

is it okay if I hate me dad if hes abused me and my brother all our lifes after my mother died in 1999

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Answer #1

If he abused and never tried to look after your best interests…Report.

Answer #2

“he’s obviously hurting and has no way to deal with it.”

There are always correct and more productive ways to deal with any emotion, losing a loved one or any reason is no reason or excuse to abuse anyone, much less a child! If he truly is abusing you, you need to tell someone ASAP! He needs to get the help he needs and so do you in order to start the healing process and for you to have a chance at a healthy relationship w/ your dad.

Answer #3

Hate is a pretty strong word.

How exactly is he “abusing” you? I can understand anger and resentment when someone hurts you, and I can understand hate when that person is a stranger or enemy, but this is your father, and even though he may be hurting you, there is still a bond there that should be stronger than any hate.

That doesn’t mean he has a right to abuse you, but if this is something that started after your mother’s death, then it might be beneficial to try and figure out the reasons for his behaviour - he’s obviously hurting and has no way to deal with it.

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