Why did this happen, why did they take her away from me?

last night my girlfriend died of anorexia. she was 19 and weighed 35 kilos. she died of a heartattack cause by this illness. it is my fault she is dead because i should have taken better care of her.

why did this happen? why did they take her away from me? where do i go from here?

Answer #1

Was she living with you?

Answer #2

Yes

Answer #3

Its not your fault you could have made her get help but it prob wouldnt have mattered she would have to want to do it too for it to work dont beat yourself up over it i know its hard to lose someone but life goes on and she’ll always be with you in spirit

Answer #4

sorry to hear that..man!! No.. U cant take the blame on yourself… U must have had done what u could have!! Just talk it out… Or spend some moments alone.. Take a breather.. Take one step at a time..time heals evrything… Not sayin to forget her but be ready to let go!! Start over!! Sory again,musthv been hard on u!!

Answer #5

And when she passed, was she in hospital?

Answer #6

i’m so sorry to hear that, but don’t worry Tyler things happen for a reason, i’m positive she didn’t want to leave you and that she loves you so very much, it was her time. it’s better for her to leave now then have to suffer and suffer from it which would become even harder for her.. and plus she wouldn’t want you being all sad and depressed she’ll always be waiting for you in heaven, as long as you keep her in your heart she’ll always be there with you, she’s watching you right now I bet .. please just stay strong.

Answer #7

I’m so sorry to hear that. Sometimes in this life we all have to leave - soon or late. Death is something we all are going to suffer from sooner or later. God stopped her from suffering, he took her to a better place. You must remember that wherever she is now, she’s not hurting. You must stay strong for her. I won’t tell you to move on, to ignore the pain because the pain will never go away. It’ll always hurt. Sometimes we need to loose people to know how important it is to live. Stay strong. Talk to someone you can trust. Don’t bottle it inside, you can start hurting yourself emotionally. God took her to a better place now. Just remember she’s looking down on you so be strong and go for whatever you wanted to do. Keep her in your prayers, I know I’ll keep her in mine. I’m sorry for your loss.

Answer #8

It’s not your fault, it’s just part of life, if it was her time to go, then it happened. There comes a point where you can’t help a pearson, it’s up to them to get the help, you could not force her to do something, you just did your best at traying to help her out of these. Best thing to do is to know that you did your best, and that it was not your fault, it was her time to leave, but you did your best while she was alive. I would say to just get help, get someone to help you out trough this while you have the pain inside, just so you don’t take other actions, like cutting or thinking about suacide or meaby even going into a big depression. Find your way of coping with things, if you want to just cry all the time, then do it, if that is your way of getting out, looking at her picture help some people, but then again not all. Talking to somebody, going for a walk, or whatever that just helps you out. I am sorry for what happened, and I really wish you the best, and hope everything turns out ok.

Answer #9

i’m so sorry for your loss, and i send my greatest sympathy to you and to all the lives she touched. And Tyler this is not your burden to carry, this is not your fault. The fact of the matter is, is that she was sick and with any drug (even a mental one like annorexia)it can consume a person to the point where there’s nothing anyone can do; it was something that she was battling in herself. It’s horrible that it had to end this way, but believe me its the loved ones left behind who suffer, at least now she is at peace. For now grieve, surround yourself with loved ones and remember her only for her life and light, not ever for her disease because she’s more than this disease, even if she didn’t realize it.

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