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Why doesn't he want us to be official?

ok I’ve been friends with this guy for quiite while now and I recently told him that I care about him a lot and I hope that soon we can take it to the next level… well I must say all that level is putting a lable to the fact that we actually are boyfriend and girlfriend… I meant shoot we hangout enjoy each others company… have sex, kiss, hug, cuddle everything…but all he said I was I don’t know.. he has been burned by a couple of girls in the past year and is wanting to be single for awhile… but im scared that hes going to go and sleep around with girls and crap or he’ll meet someone he really likes and I get the boot (thats happened before)… whats he trying to say? Is he just using me? he doesnt like expressing his feelings at all so hes a pretty hard read sometimes… he did tell me that when we couldnt see eachother he missed me a lot and that he thought about me a lot… do you think im reading into this too much?? Im so confused and I like him so MUCH!!!

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Answer #1

To clarify this situation (in case you havent caught on yet), is a friends with benefits relaitonship, and nothing more! You are someone that your friend has sex with. There is no emotional attachment, no relationship. Not even a handshake when it’s over. You are simply a friend that is having sex with another friend

Friends with benefits never work…Due to the reason that always one of the people involved in that kind of relationship will always want more than just a quick ‘Lay’…

You’ve made a HUGE mistake by giving him EVERY reason NOT to want to date you. You are having sex, without being in a commited relationship with him. Why would he date you, when hes getting it all for free? He is only using you for sex. Thats usually what friends with benefits is all about, unless both parties agree its only for sex, and wants nothing more from the other. Obviously, thats not the case here. How do you know hes not sleeping with other girls?

“Sex to Get Love?” ~Thats not a way to get a guy to love you , hes only using you this way . He hasnt got any respect for you and he doesnt love you . ~He would be with you physically but not and never with his heart . Sex will not make him love you ~Love makes you feel good. Sex is just an act. Even when a relationship is short-term and the person goes from partner to partner when something goes bitter in the relationship, it’s sex they’re after, but love they’re craving.” ~Sex is a stronger urge in men>Men just typically won’t pass up a chance for sex ~Sex is no foundation for love. Thats why relationships based on sex dont last!

What men want women to know about men & sex… Having sex with a man doesn’t help him fall in love, make a woman more special to him, save a failing relationship or even guarantee a commitment will follow. When a man is serious about a woman, he will wait a long time for sex. A lot of men would even wait for marriage.

The right time to have sex, is when you’re sure that this is the person you will be spending the rest of your life with!!

Answer #2

Just so you guys know when we have sex.. if I try to leave or I want to go he’’ll beg me to stay…he loves to “hold me” he says… He likes to have me there…Im just really confused lol

Answer #3

I’m a guy myself and the thing with other people is that, they love being around with other girls (well it’s the nature of a guy ofcourse) though they never seem to commit into a serious relationship. they always know when right is right. he’s not using you, maybe he really does need some time alone to sort things out. but one thing that puzzles me about this is you guys had sex and after he says he want to be single, seems to me like the sex was meaningless. who knows guys go through this same problem aswell as women. just let him be for now, hhe might not like all the pressure on him to commit to the next level. give him some time. if he really loved you he’d go back to you.

Answer #4

I dont think gils actually understand that guys are very sensitive deep down

I personally wouldnt say hes using you I think its jus ah fact that hes been hurt ah bit in the past and hes not ready to take that on again!!

But there is a small possibility your reading into it ah bit but cerntainly if ah guy told me he missed me then I would take it like that too but it jus depends on normally how much he shows his feelings or not!!!

hope thats help

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