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He says he doesn't want me... I don't believe him

I’d been dating the same guy for 7 years… and we were friends for 4 years before that. Everyone said what a nice couple we made… we were discussing buying a house to gether and and making tentative plans for hhe future. Then everything changed abruptly… I found out that he had cheated on me and got the girl pregnant. When he eventually told me… the baby was 3months old already… and he probably wouldn’t have told me if his family wasn’t pressuring him to come good by me. I was willing to forgive him for his deception. But while he says he is sorry… he doesn’t want to continue a relationship with me and that hurts even more than his deception. the bottomline is that I don’t want to give him up… I feel as if I invested too much time and energyin this relationship. He’s been my best friend for more than 10 years now… sometimes my only friend. I believe we could overcome this rift if he was only willing to try… He calls to find out how I’m going and occasionally we still have sex but he insists he doesn’t want to pursue a relationship. What should I do… I don’t want to lose my best friend?

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Answer #1

hey there, i feel for you so much! ive been wit my man for 7 yrs and if he ever did that i wouldn’t want to know,but because he doesnt want you either makes you want him even more. please try to find some strength in yself to get him out of your system and find yself first. he’s not worth it and the more u want him the more he will take advantage. my address is 14, heol dyfed birchgrove cardiff cf14 4pn and my name is jessica if ever u need a chat. my number also is 02920332312. i know how lonely it can get when u been wit sum1 4 so long and u end u losing most y friends. i get lonely too so if u wana make a new friend please get in contact.

Answer #2

i know its hard with times like this, but when a baby is in the picture i believe its time to get up and let go. You dont have to lose a best friend but the boyfriend is what need to be lost. i know its hard when you put your all in some things and they dont work out how you like them but thats life and when your smart enough to go back and redo what fell down (you and him) and he doesnt want to, then you may just have to lose him. You and him can still be friends but now i dont think you should rush him back in a relatioship, just be his friend and when he calms down probalby he’ll go back to being your bf. but until then be friends and i wouldnt give him none if me and him were gonna be friends…cause then he’s using you

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