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Fingering, am I doing something wrong?

Kay so me and my girlfriend are both virgins and she is the only girl I have ever done sexual things with. We have been going out for a pretty long time, a year, and I still haven’t really even fingered her. Every time I actually go in the vagina she says it feels weird and she doesn’t like it so I stop. And its not that she doesn’t want it we both want it, and I feel so bad that I can’t make it feel good.

Everyone makes it seem so simple just stick one or two fingers in and out of her vagina but it doesn’t seem to work. And I don’t know if its me doing something wrong cause she says she doesn’t feel anything really when she fingers herself, but it doesn’t feel weird like when I do it, like I’m “hitting something I’m not supposed to” So mainly I just rub her clit she likes that sometimes, I’m still not very good at that. But I want her to enjoy the actual fingering, what can I do? Plus don’t even say try the g-spot cause I can’t even be in there long enough to find it without her wanting me to get out. Please help

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Answer #1

Some girls just don’t like it. I personally don’t like it. You have to make sure she’s wet before doing it, otherwise it can hurt, be sure to keep your nails trimmed, don’t want you scratching up her insides. Be very very gentle, and make sure you’re poking those fingers of yours the right way! Palm facing upwards, and slip them in and slant them upwards towards her lower back. Also try using just one finger at first, probably best if it’s the middle finger, thats most common but what ever suits you is fine. if she’s a virgin it might hurt her using more than one finger at a time. Also with her clit, but gentle with that too! Circular motions are good.

One last thing, make sure she isn’t just caving in to pressure, make sure she actually wants you to do this for her. And make sure you take things slowly and ensure you’re both ready to start with a sexual relationship.

Hope I helped.

Answer #2

haha wow! okay well what I suggest is using your mouth, because quite honestly girls aren’t all that crazy about a guy fingering them… its just natural. but if you get down there with your mouth, and you will learn fast, just ask her what she likes and doesn’t like. try your tongue in her vagina, maybe work her up to the fingers. nibble on her clit ect…

Answer #3

“ because quite honestly girls aren’t all that crazy about a guy fingering them… its just natural”

Im sorry but im gunna have to call bullsh*t on that one. You just have to know how to do it properly so it wont hurt or in this case feel wierd. What I think you should do is get her to show you how she does it then try it yourself and THEN add oral to it.

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