How can I get my family and everything to actually realize what I go through or what I feel?

yesterday my brother told me im a dumb btch, i dont know anything, my dad should beat the fck out of me and that i need to die. well that made me want to and i was really depressed all day and still sort of am, he said he didnt actually mean it but he says stuff like that ALL the time and NO ONE thinks what they say affects me, how do i get them to think it does without going as far as showing them by doing bad things or atleast how can i get over what they say?

Answer #1

This may sound a little mean but have you actually thought of what they are going through? People including family, friends and just haters will always say things at one point that they wished they ad never said and most of the time it’s simply because your the only person there and they need to take their anger out on somebody. You should remember the things your brother has said to you in the past and when he next says something good or asks you to do something for him (no matter how small or easy it is) tell him how you felt and make him feel really guilty! This may sound mean but it does work and if it doesn’t, talk to someone more responsible and tell them what this is doing to you. Good luck, you’ll be fine.

Answer #2

well you can tell them how you feel they”ll understand

Answer #3

my brother doesn’t really go through anything, he lives with me i know what he goes through.. honestly i go through way more than he does and im not that ignorant and say he needs to die or anything.. he does everything he wants, gets everything he wants and hes my grandmas favorite so she does EVERYTHING for him. i don’t do anything to him and he always says stuff like that. like just the other day i was only standing by him and he was like “omg, your pregnant” because im so fat :/ no one really cares..

Answer #4

they don’t care, i’ve tried telling them they say things like “your just trying to get attention, thats not my problem, your such a cry baby” and things like that, i dont know how much i can handle with everyone.. :/

Answer #5

So is that case isn’t there an older person you can talk to about him making you feel this way? If not then I suggest doing what I said above or give him some of it back and see how he likes it.

Answer #6

well when i tell people they laugh and take it as a joke, no one takes how i feel seriously and it makes me feel worse.. people make jokes or say mean things to stuff that upsets me alot.. being mean back doesn’t make me feel any better.. i feel too bad when i do

Answer #7

Your brother is just ignorant & immature. Best thing to do is ignore him, cause if you take it personally then hes getting what he wants even more. It’s easier said than done I know but it’s really all you can do. I doubt hes even serious. Your parents & whoever probably just think since your a teen your hormonal & whiney, which usually isn’t even the case but it doesn’t matter. In the end it only matters what you do for yourself. If you show them how it hurts you your mostlikely gonna get a bad reaction, their probably gonna just say your a baby your whiney your overreacting. Your incontrol of your emotions & actions, make yourself happy, don’t expect them to do it for you, if they don’t understand then they don’t understand, what ever let it be, that’s their problem for not paying enough attention/giving it enough thought. They have their problems you have yours. If your expecting more from them then your bringing yourself up to throw yourself down.

Answer #8

I think that your problem is - basically - that your brother is a bully. He knows you well and he knows how to hurt you. It makes him feel strong if he manages to make you feel tiny.

The only way to get out of that is: don’t feel tiny. Put yourself to a point where he can’t hurt you. He is probably trying to compensate his own inferiority complex, like most bullies do. So if he says something like it again, give him a smirk, say nothing and be indifferent. That will upset him most.

Answer #9

sometimes you can actually make them feel what you feel because some things are similar in your life maybe

Answer #10

If i was you i would just be quiet for a few days after he does something like that they will wonder why you have gone so quiet and then they will ask you and you can tell them why without seeming a cry baby

Answer #11

If i was you i would just be quiet for a few days after he does something like that they will wonder why you have gone so quiet and then they will ask you and you can tell them why without seeming a cry baby

Answer #12

well you should tell someone you know and are close too

Answer #13

well you should tell someone you know and are close too

Answer #14

a good way to ignore it is to find something to distract you like I use music when stuff like that happens, just as soon as they start to say something negative walk away and go to your distraction. there for your not doing anything wrong or being mean while at the same time you can forget about it. and all males go though a phase don’t know why but they just act and don’t think about how it effects the person their saying it too, it even worse when it come to families though. but just keep holding hold after sometime they will realize what they are saying and doing and will regret it but until then good luck

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