equal love

My knee jerk reaction is that your child will outgrow this. But maybe there is some favoritism gonig on that you could ponder as well. I wouldn’t just automatically dismiss his admission of his feelings to you. Even if you don’t favor one over the other, that is how the boy feels and that’s what you should address. Yyou need to constantly explain to the older child that younger children need more attention, that sibling rivalry is normal, that you will do the best you can to even it out and yes–scheduling something that you can do with your older son one on one would help. Maybe even tell your son stories of your sibling rivalries when you were young, if you have them.

Something I tried when my son was going through a “you dont give me enough attention” phase is that I printed off 101 things to say to be nice to your kid and I posted it on the refrigerator. I would refer to that list all day long. He eventually noticed what I was doing and it became a funny joke, like, “son, if you clean off the coffee table, I’ll tell you three nice things from THE LIST” and some of the things on the list were so hokey and corny, it would be fun to go run to it and come back and say, “you’re an a-1 ROCKSTAR” or, “You’ve figured out the secret!” and “You brighten up my day, sunshine!”. The point of it was that we had our own little inside joke and it was funny and between us and the list grew and grew. Now we have hundreds of things to say and sometimes in grocery stores if I’m confused and then figure something out, my son will say, “You’re a treasure!” from OUR List. You just have to have things that develop your bond with your son on a personal, one on one level. For some reason, my son just loves that we have that between us. And so do I. Good luck!

i think you should take a day and spend it with your son and talk to him about everything and make sure that you let him know that you love him and that he is still special to you and take a couple days now and then and just spend the day with him

i think that you should take him and the other one out and treat them the same like dont show one more attention the the other one!!!!

you need to spend time with both children and keep telling both of them you love them

i have felt the same way many times with my sister and its because we can notice of the large amount of attention the parents give to the younger child. Although we have to understand that younger children tend to have more attention because they are younger and are just beginning to grow up compared to older ones [and that we probably got that attention at that age], it is still hard and hurtful because you realise that you don’t get that attention anymore and that someone else is instead. Try spending more time with your kids, and if possbile, separately. Do something with them that interests them for example one day spend time with your son doing his hobbie. Then the next with the other child. Tell your children you love them and cuddle both of them as much.

Dear luvly, This is a common reaction when there is a younger sibling. Sometimes the child does grow out of this stage and sometimes they don’t. It’s a difficult problem with no clear answers. We expect the older to know better or the older to take more responsibilities and usually the older doesn’t see it as being fair even though they are older. So along with the extra responsibilities, extra chores etc. should come some extra bonuses. Now the younger one feels like you will love the older more but you must assure the younger that when they get older they will also get these bonuses. Being older means you are no longer the baby, the apple of everyone’s eye. It comes with a lot of trauma for some older siblings so don’t afraid to offer a little more because they are older. Sue…good luck

sometimes if you give more attention to more and not the other thats what happens with my nieces but thats all that I can come up with