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Worned out

Ok soo I know valentines is over but it s’pose to be the nicest times with your loved ones isnt it? Well I hope all of you did spent it with that person… cause I didnt its not because he wasnt allowed or something, my boyfriend was s’pose to go to mines and visit me as my parents want him to, to prove himself to them that he does really love me.

He told me he will, he told me like weeks before valentines and I waited and waited for him for hours and even for his call to let me know if he is gna come but nope, I never even got 1 txt message from him… I needed to hear his voice so I called him instead cause I felt so depressed, I didnt told him I was I don’t think he even knew that I cried before I called him, not only that he also never visited me for my birthday and christmas, I always go to his behind my parents back and Im starting to hate the fact that its always me who makes an effort of seeing each other, and its always me who goes to him, it makes me feel like he dsnt even care even tho he always says he does.

We’ve been together for 9 months and I cant believe that my 1st valentine with someone was nothing special at all and I dont know what to do. I love him, I love him soo freaking much that I dont what I would do to me if I ever call our relationship off, im just so depressed right now and I don’t know if I should still give him my valentine gift… please help :’(

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Answer #1

awww hun! I can completely understand the way you’re feeling right now! - that must hurt real bad to see that you’re always the one who’s making the effort in putting love into the relationship. love is suppose to feed off of two people if one shows a lot of love and affection but the other doesn’t give back! - that can be a problem… especially since you’ve been together for 9 months… I’m sure you’d think that he’d get the hint! but have you ever tried talking to him? telling him the way you feel, like have you ever expressed your emotions in front of him to show him that you love him? if I were you, I’d still give him his gift, and I’d sit him down and express my love to him telling him how much I wished he would’ve spent his valentine’s with me!! - just bring out all your feelings (like you did on here)! - the way he reacts to you will be your answer if he truly loves and cares for you or not!

hope this helped and I hope things work out for you hun!

Answer #2

gna? - not sue what that means! lol

okay, so you say you know the way he will act and you know that he cares!! BUT dose he know the way you’re heart reacts when he doesn’t call you or texts you to tell you where he’s at OR when he leaves you hanging clueless of where he is on an occasion that’s meant to be special!! AND if he DOSE care!! - which he should, cause you DESERVE his care! - why doesn’t he take the time to call or the effort to do those little things he once did when the two of you first started going out? hun! if something dosen’t sit right in a relationship, you NEED to talk it out! - otherwise it’s gunna be leaving you depressed or as you say it “worn out”!! you need to take it all out at him and show him how you feel!

Answer #3

I know how you feel. I have a boyfriend and I didnt get to spend that day with him. I think you should just get rid of him. You need a better guy. A guy who will come see you. Not make you see him all the time.

9 months is a long time, and it will be very very hard to break up the relationship. but I think you should.

Talk to him about it. Ask him why he didnt come.

If hes not making any effort, then just leave him.

Good luck with everything and if you need anything else just funmail me

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