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How can my dad dare try and be a father figure to me?

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Since I was born, I never saw my dad without a drink in his hand, I don't even remember him ever sober and this is pure honesty. He's an embarrassment, I've never hated someone it's not right to live with regret. Either way just after my 14th birthday my mum decided to separate and leave my dad, only thing is she left me and my older sister behind. My mum's always neglected never bothered speaking to me always thought I was too stupid to understand and she would put it in those words exact. My sister use to beat me which my parents thought was toughening up for the real world, after my mum left I use to see her everyday but it's gotta longer periods now [I'm 17 nearly 18] my mum lives 20 miles away and has started her own family with my dad's best friend and now they have a baby, God knows I love my mum and step-dad and my half sister, when she left I finally got a relationship I've always wanted. On the other hand my mum left my dad because of his drinking, he'd blame me and my sister for months on end saying "me and my sister never deserved her because we're spoiled evil blood suckers that crap on other people's dreams and happiness" that sent myself and my dad into a depressive stage, I use to be a fat ginger but I lost so much weight after my mum left, unfortunately my dad didnt see otherwise and keeps saying I fatter than an air balloon, only thing is I'm 5"4 size 10/12 with an hourglass figure and eat healthy and exercise daily. Anyway my dad has never bothered knowing who I am, he was only there to grab me by my neck telling me how fat and worthless I am, now it's just me and my dad living together, I hate it, he constantly fights with me and because of his hernia it's made him really sick, as in his stomach acid is eroding his heart away, that's how bad it is, I dont get it I wana go sleep round my guy mates house tonight only being a few years older, completely safe been round his loads of times before, and he dares tell me I cant go out, I have to f*ck off to bed early and has the nerve to say"I'm your dad, do as I say" for the childhood and life he's given me in memory, how can he have the bloody nerve to tell me what to do, I work, I travel to my college by my own money and just live in a house with him and yet he expects me to do all the cleaning, stay in because he doesn't approve of my friends and feels since he's been such a 'lovely' father figure to me he can do all that!!? So my question is "how can he dare tell me what to do when he hasn't acted like a dad since birth?" and this is no lie 100% truth. Replies a.s.a.p. would be much appreciated.