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How can I tell my Step-Dad I don't want to call him Dad anymore?

Okay so my bio father passed away when I was two years old, and my mother re-married when I was about 5. I am 14 now and have never felt truly comfortable calling him “Dad” and feel almost..disloyal. I don’t really see him as a father figure, rather “my mum’s husband”, but have always chosen to cover this up for fear of hurting people’s feelings (not just his, my mum’s, too) but I really want to tell them both that I would rather call him by his first name, like before they married. Considering I have never dared mention this before, how should I go about talking about it? (Sorry this is so long..) Any help is really appreciated. :)

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Answer #1

I think you should talk to your mom about if first and go from there. If he looks at you like a son, yeah he’ll be hurt but he will also understand.

Answer #2

I think that’s a really good iapproach to the situation.

Answer #3

u shouldnt be scared cuz im sure ur mom would rather know how u feel then u feeling weird. just talk to them both at the same time and hope everything turns out good. c:

Answer #4

Don’t tell em…just stop doing if u don’t want to anymore

Answer #5

go and talk straight to him .. just say what u really feel

Answer #6

Thanks. :)

Answer #7

ur welcome (:

Answer #8

Talk to them both and make sure he understand that it isn’t that you don’t care about him but that you feel like it’s disrespectful to your real dad for you to call another man dad.

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