How to get my 'old' Dad back?

When your alone with him then this is when you should talk to him. I know it’s hard when a parent has a new partner. I doubt he intends to upset you and make you feel like this, he just needs to know where his priorities lie.

But the thing is, his girlfriend would also see it. And then it would just cause a ton more problems. :(

Then sit them both down and tell them ahead of time what kind of talk u wud like to have with them, and just express how u feel to them

I’d just ask your dad if you and he can go out for coffee to talk about an issue you’re having. Let him know that it’s something you’d rather talk to him alone about, then go from there and tell him how you feel when you’re having the coffee/tea/etc.

His girlfriend may not love the idea that she’s not included in the conversation, but you ARE allowed to ask for some father-daughter time where she isn’t included. Just because he’s dating her, it doesn’t mean that you guys can’t have a conversation without her. That would be ridiculous of her to expect. If his girlfriend can’t understand that you guys need some time for each other every now and then, then she has problems of her own and it’s not your issue.

Tell him you would like to spend quality time. Or somethjng that interest him and use that to talk to him.

Ask him for a father/daughter date.Make sure that date does not include the movies! Maybe bowling, dinner, hike, somewhere that you can talk. I hate these situations and I see them so frequently. You are not alone my dear. My heart goes out to you.

Reminds me of the song by Good charlotte “Hey dad”. This song will bring tears to your eyes. But that’s how I deal with emotions.

Maybe even ask for a “date” night with just you and his girlfriend. That may be super hard for you. But talking to her letting her know you just want some quality time with him and you love him and want him to be happy.

When adults make changes in their lives due to relationships, kids always get the bad hand on things. Please understand you are not at fault. Never were you and never will you be. I hope someone’s advice works for you.

Thanks, that’s a really good piece of advice. But the thing is, he works long hours, so he leaves really early in the morning and gets back late. And I seriously doubt that he will agree to go out to talk to me somewhere alone, as he won’t even go into a different room of the house to speak to me… Everything is always “If you can speak to me about it, then you can speak to her about it”. They’re basically inseparable, and with two very young kids, he doesn’t really have time for me. But don’t get me wrong, a lot of the time I get along well with her, and sometimes she will give me a hug. But my Dad won’t when they are together. And sometimes all I really need is for my Dad to give me a hug. But thank you very much for your suggestions, no harm in giving it a go I suppose. :)

Grownups can be stupid sometimes. In the beginning of a new relationship both of them have their best “look good” going on. This usually wears off eventually and they will come to their senses. Write him a letter. It is important that they both know how you feel. Sounds aweful. Hugs. :)

They’ve been together for quite a few years now, and have two children together. But I like the idea of a letter. Maybe I’ll try that. I feel better today than I did yesterday, when I asked the question. I think I was just having one of those days yesterday. You know? :) Thank youuu for the advice! :)

Hi, glad you are feeling a bit better today. You say your dad has 2 young children - how old are they and do you have any other siblings? If you do, do they feel the same as you? Do you live with your dad? When you say your dad isn’t like that - what do you mean? How do you know he’s not like that. He could have been a different person in a previous relatiionship as things weren’t right.

Hope things get better. :)

Just a quick question. Why can’t you talk to your dad in front of his girlfriend? You say he has no time for you, how much time to you spend with him in a day?
As I asked before - do you have any other siblings that feel the same as you do?