Is it bad that my brother threw me down the stairs in our house?

What do you think?

You shouldn’t be yelling at you mom. If you have a disagreement with her, try to keep your cool and speak about things level headed. Listen. Even if you don’t agree with her, it’s important to respect her. If you get too angry, walk away and try talking when you’re less angry.

Now, when it comes to what your brother did – NO. It’s never okay for anyone to hit you or push you down the stairs. He may have wanted to convey that what you did wasn’t okay, but it’s not okay for him to behave that way either. The next time he does something like that, let one of your parents know. Always keep in mind that respect goes both ways, however. To get it, you have to give it.

Well I mean, yeah. He pushed you down the stairs…

Me and my mom have been fighting for years. we’re opposites. She always tells me I’m a loser or a delinquint or something like that. Respect is a two way street, and if she WON’T respect me, why should I even try? She doesn’t hate me (I don’t think mothers are truly CAPABLE of hating their children.) but she doesn’t love me or even like me. Ex: Before we started fighting this time, I said, “Life’s good” and sence my dad says that appearently I’m just like him and am the spon of Satan. That kills me. It’s how I know she doesn’t respect or even like me.

I don’t know if it can be justified. He’s mom’s favorite. If she’s sick, he’d know. I wouldn’t. I think he was angry because we both got really worked up, but I don’t know. Currently avoiding him.

it depends upon the reason why he had thrown you.

Have you ever tried talking to her about why she feels that way, or perhaps to let her know that her saying those things to you hurts you? I don’t really know everything that goes on between the two of you, but I noticed in one of your other questions you mentioned that you got arrested at some point. It’s possible that she’s upset with that kind of behaviour?

In any case, if you and your mother have issues, I still think it’s important to work on those issues so that the two of you CAN have a loving and respectful relationship. I know it’s terribly upsetting when she says things like that, but if you both don’t find a good way of communicating, things cannot change that way. You both have to try to make a difference.

It sounds like you really have issues with your parents. Your brother sounds like he is protective of his mom and close to her while you are angry and distant towards her. I’ve read some of your other posts as well and it sounds like you have trouble controlling your emotions and your emotions are really out of control when it comes to your family. In fairness, that may be in part your families part in name calling. The fact is only until all sides see their own parts in the relationship towards each other the only thing that’s going on is negative fueling. All of you should get a thrid outside party like a counselor involved to point out the things neither side is seeing. Also some of your posts suggest that your emotions control you rather then you being in control of them. That could be physical and a result of adverse reaction to certain foods and diet, but it could also be due to the climate you are growing up in. I don’t think the issue is who is right or wrong because it sounds like all of you are contributing too deeply towards the negatives to see any positive honest direction. Sometimes it’s necessary if anything is going to change it’s going to take outside third party’s getting involved to look at all facets objectively. I don’t see from your posts that you nor your family are able to do that anymore. I would sit down and get yourself into a state of calm, loose attitude, and talk honestly about the relationship you REALLY want to have with them and willing if they are to have an outside source explore what you all can do to make it better.

She won’t. I’ve tried and given up on her. To her, all I’ll ever be is just like my father.

“Respect is a two way street, and if she WON’T respect me, why should I even try?”

I can easily imagine your mother saying exactly the same thing in reverse, about you.

The reason you should try is that you have seen how hurtful and unfair and unappealing and altogether unsavory it is when your family members do not act respectfully toward you, so you know from that how important it is to be a respectful person. In other words, it’s not about your mother. It’s about who - and what sort of a person - you want to be. That doesn’t make it easy; it just makes it right - both morally, and for your own needs. You have a lot of work to do, Andrew, both inwardly and in your family relationships. As daunting as it may seem, it is good and, in time, deeply rewarding work.