Best for the baby?

mayb raise it .. unless you absolutly cant then adoption… but im not sure.. I think its best if the kid knows parents.. unless their on drugds or something not good 4 the kid

Oh hunny you have to make this choice on your own. I would say with you and your mom willing to support this baby then, keep it. I was 17 also and almost 18 when I had my daughter. She is now almost 15. I think I have done a great job. Of course, the teen years are by far the hardest!!

He should talk to his parents and maybe between your family and his you can raise this baby just fine.

I say, keep your baby. God wouldn’t have given you something you cant handle.

Good luck. Keep us informed.

would pick raising the baby

The decision is ultimently yours. Raising a baby is hard no matter how old you are. If your Mom wasn’t able to help you, would you be able to do it on your own? I am also a believer of “we are given what we can handle”. Weather you choose to raise your baby or decide to have someone adopt him/her, you will be able to handle the situation. My husband and I have 4 beautiful children. Three who walk, one who flies. We lost our fourth child, a boy, just over a year ago. He was only five days old. I wouldn’t wish what we are going through on anyone, BUT we are handling it. It has opened our eyes to so many things. We now are faced with, not only loosing him, but we can’t have anymore children. We have done a cycle of IVF, (1 failed attempt) and now are thinking of adoption. The only issue, $. Not money to raise, but the cost to adopt. You are right, money isn’t anything. There are many “great” families out there, and you would have your say in where your baby goes. Weather it’s a private adoption or with an agency. There is open adoption, semi-open adoptions, not all are closed. These options would allow you to see your child grow and have some kind of contact with them. I always said if I were to adopt, it would be closed. Not anymore, I think it would be ok for the child to know something about their birthparents, after all, they decided to pass their gift onto you. You would still be able to continue your education, and follow your dreams. You could still do that if you decided to keep your baby, it would just be a little harder. I put my “dream” on hold, but I now run my owm business. I probably would have never decided to take the step, if my eyes weren’t forced open last April. Please feel free to contact me regarding ANYTHING. I’m sure you will come to the best decision you can for both you and the baby. God Bless

their is no way of being a perfect mother I was preg at 17 and now have 2 lovely boys. I think that if you did go down the adoption path you will regret it later on. it sounds like you have a great support network round you especially you mom listen to her sh knows what shs on about.

I think you sound very mature and kind for posting a question like this. If you really do have the childs well being in mind, that is very thoughtful of you. You sound like you would do fine if you kept the baby. Then you would never have any regrets or thoughts about How your baby is doing or anything like that if like you would if you were to adopt it out.. I think that there can be a good family out there to adopt your baby, but NO family is better than the biological family (sometimes). As long as you are ready for the committment to give that baby love, support, food, and warmth, I think keeping the baby is the right choice!!! If you were on drugs, and not mature, I’d say give the baby up for adoption, but it does not sound like that’s the case.. But all in all, it is up to you and only you!! You have a lot of decisions to make, but I don’t think that just giving it up for adoption will solve all your problems.. Keeping the baby won’t solve all your problems either, but I think it would be much better on you and the baby!! GOOD LUCK!!!

that is a really hard question that no one can answer but you. you have two paths. if you decide to raise the child, you are sacrificing yourself, goals/dreams. Mothers do get beautiful, indescribable gifts for that sacrifice. make the decision assuming that you will be raising the kiddo by yourself. it seems like what is best for the baby could be either path, so just go with your gut. I am trying SO hard not to be biased with this advice, since I am a mother, but I have never heard of anyone regretting keeping their child.

You Should Defenitly raise The child by Yourself. Adoption is not always the best choise. As for me, You age dosent matter. You could still be a great mother, Concidering you totally understand the love a baby needs. I think you will make a great mother =]

P.S. Its So not selfish, Its your baby. And your the Babys mom, im sure the child would want you to Be His/ or her Momma. Good Luck.

Umm I would pick raising the baby…I’m raising a 2 year old right now of course with my parents help… that helps a lot… I wouldnt give my baby up for adoption because you dont know who the baby is actually going to and of course your going to regret it… any mother would.. and when the baby gets older you know they alll try to find there real birth mother or info about her..I would say keep the baby …You can do it! a lot of girls at your age have babies and they are doing it. Keep positive…You can do it!!

im dealing with the same problem raise the baby cauz this way you know it will be loved… dont make your baby motherless and you dont know how long the baby could stay in an adoption home for all you know the baby could spend most its life not haveing a mother or father and not knowing who your parants is sucks trust me I was put up for adoption didnt get a family till I was like 9 or 10